A bit of Christmas Cheer

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Permalink Reply by Aaron Little on December 7, 2009 at 7:01pm

Thank you for sharing the "Validation" YouTube link. That was Awesome.

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Permalink Reply by James Hazlerig on December 7, 2009 at 9:33pm

What a great challenge. And I loved the Validation video. :-)

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Permalink Reply by Tamara on December 8, 2009 at 1:12am

I just loved that link, great window into positive reinforcement

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Permalink Reply by Jan Krüger on December 8, 2009 at 4:36am

I hadn't seen that video before. It's wonderful.

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Permalink Reply by Kelley Woods on December 8, 2009 at 5:04am

John, YOU are AWESOME! You are really great! You are someone who really contributes something wonderful to the world!!

Thank you for the smiles this morning...Kelley

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Permalink Reply by James Hazlerig on December 8, 2009 at 9:01am

John,

Can you tell us more about the mood enhancer you used with the bell ringer? Having read your other posts, I suspect I know which method you used, but for the benefit of those who are newer here and haven't had the pleasure of reading your posts, could you give us more details about the whole interaction?

And since you asked for folks to share techniques, here's a quickie I did last week at a networking meeting:

It was about 7:30 on what passes for a chilly morning in Texas, and I noticed that the woman across the table from me was shivering and rubbing her hands. So I said, "Marsha, do you remember last July? The way that the sun is always shining at two in the afternoon and when you step out the door, it's like opening an oven with the heat blasting up from the sidewalk to permeate every cell of your body getting warmer and warmer as you sit there and breathe in that warm air that flows inside you like bright sunlight beating down at two pm in July . . . " and so on.

When I finished, she said, "Hey, my hands are warm!"


James

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Permalink Reply by John Cleesattel on December 8, 2009 at 11:24am

Sure James,

I have posted it many times before, but once more into the breach we go!

I ask the subject if they would want to feel more Christmas spirit this year. I tell them it will only take 30 seconds and that they will really like the feeling. If they say yes, then I proceed as follows:

1. I ask them to take a moment and imagine what it must feel like to really be Santa Claus. Brimming with Christmas spirit and totally happy on the inside, and to let me know when they have done it. I explain that this is the benchmark or target, that we are shooting for.

2. Next, I ask them if they are any good at visualizing, or seeing things with their mind's eye. This is because I want them to visualize a dial on a wall. It is like a clock face with a scale of one to ten, and an arrow pointing to one. Let me know when you have this.

3. I explain that it is their Christmas Spirit meter. The higher the number that the arrow points to on the meter, the more Christmas spirit they will have. So in a moment, I will ask them to move that arrow from a one, to a two, and when they do, they will notice an immediate increase in the Christmas spirit that they feel, and it will feel really good. (Sets expectancy)

4. I ask if that is okay with them, (gets permission) and then ask "Are you ready?" (makes expectancy imminent)

5. Move the arrow to two...NOW (snap). You can feel the increase, can't you. (statement, not question). Lets keep going.

6. Move the arrow to three...NOW (snap) (snap = snap fingers)

7. Move the arrow to four...NOW (snap)

8. To five...NOW (snap)

9. To six...NOW (snap). You are really feeling it now, aren't you. How high would you like to go? (I ask this here because easy subjects are really susceptible, and you can crank them up really high quickly...and I want it to be a positive experience. It lets them tell you when it is time to stop). Follow their response.

10. There you go. How do you feel? You will notice that this good feeling with stay with you and you will feel this good every time you say Merry Christmas. This is my gift to you, have a Merry Christmas! Can I get a Ho Ho Ho?

John


James Hazlerig said:

John,
Can you tell us more about the mood enhancer you used with the bell ringer? Having read your other posts, I suspect I know which method you used, but for the benefit of those who are newer here and haven't had the pleasure of reading your posts, could you give us more details about the whole interaction? And since you asked for folks to share techniques, here's a quickie I did last week at a networking meeting: It was about 7:30 on what passes for a chilly morning in Texas, and I noticed that the woman across the table from me was shivering and rubbing her hands. So I said, "Marsha, do you remember last July? The way that the sun is always shining at two in the afternoon and when you step out the door, it's like opening an oven with the heat blasting up from the sidewalk to permeate every cell of your body getting warmer and warmer as you sit there and breathe in that warm air that flows inside you like bright sunlight beating down at two pm in July . . . " and so on.

When I finished, she said, "Hey, my hands are warm!"


James

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Permalink Reply by James Hazlerig on December 8, 2009 at 11:50am

That's a beautiful technique, John, and I like your adaptation of it to Christmas spirit!

(As an aside, I've dressed up as Santa a few times, and it's definitely an altered state of consciousness for me. Once while cleaning out my closet, I pulled on the Santa coat. Before I could get both arms in the sleeves, I felt myself turning into Santa! I couldn't wear that coat and be anyone else!)

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Permalink Reply by spooneythegoon on December 8, 2009 at 11:59am

Has anyone tried clicking a pen whenever someone is really happy to anchor it? It really works!

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Permalink Reply by James Hazlerig on December 8, 2009 at 6:38pm

Well, this is not exactly a random act of kindness, but I practiced using your mood enhancer technique with my wife a few minutes ago when she felt that the stress of the season was overwhelming her. It helped a lot.

Thanks again, John, for all the great info you share here on Hypnothoughts. You're an asset to the community. And you deserve free parking.

James

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Permalink Reply by Michael Ellner on December 8, 2009 at 6:46pm

Hi John-

I was delighted you posted Validation -- It is worth repeating! -- FYI - I posted it over a year ago and like many of the outstanding videos on this site it got lost in the mix -- Repeating them keeps them alive -- Thanks

I also appreciate your discussion- Generally speaking, social pressures, financial challenges, family tensions, isolation and grief from the loss of a loved one are stressors that can suck the joy out of the 12 days of Christmas. Some people are further stressed by the excessive eating, drinking and drugging which often is part of the holiday season.

And yet, it seems to me the biggest holiday stressor and the major cause of the holiday blues is people's expectations!

As we all know - Hypnosis and Self-hypnosis can help.

Hypnosis can help motivate people to:

Get involved with helping others

Stay focused on the present

Imagine a happier and healthier future

Exercise

Start a new project or hobby

Catch up on things that need to be done

Go out and be with people

Give themselves permission to simplify the Season in their own way

Give themselves permission to spend the Holidays with people they enjoy

Any one of the above strategies can help folks put the joy back into their lives especially during these difficult times.



I hope every one on HT.com has a happy, healthy and prosperous holiday and New Year.



Michael E.

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Permalink Reply by Kathleen Hanover on December 8, 2009 at 6:58pm

THAT WAS SO AWESOME!

It worked on ME and I was only reading it!

Thanks, John, for sharing, and thanks James for asking him to. :D

Big Santa-sized hugs to you both!

Kathleen Hanover
Imagine That Creative - Marketing and PR
"The Pretty Goodest Public Relations, Copywriting & Marketing Lady on the Planet"

John Cleesattel said:

Sure James,

I have posted it many times before, but once more into the breach we go!

I ask the subject if they would want to feel more Christmas spirit this year. I tell them it will only take 30 seconds and that they will really like the feeling. If they say yes, then I proceed as follows:

1. I ask them to take a moment and imagine what it must feel like to really be Santa Claus. Brimming with Christmas spirit and totally happy on the inside, and to let me know when they have done it. I explain that this is the benchmark or target, that we are shooting for.

2. Next, I ask them if they are any good at visualizing, or seeing things with their mind's eye. This is because I want them to visualize a dial on a wall. It is like a clock face with a scale of one to ten, and an arrow pointing to one. Let me know when you have this.

3. I explain that it is their Christmas Spirit meter. The higher the number that the arrow points to on the meter, the more Christmas spirit they will have. So in a moment, I will ask them to move that arrow from a one, to a two, and when they do, they will notice an immediate increase in the Christmas spirit that they feel, and it will feel really good. (Sets expectancy)

4. I ask if that is okay with them, (gets permission) and then ask "Are you ready?" (makes expectancy imminent)

5. Move the arrow to two...NOW (snap). You can feel the increase, can't you. (statement, not question). Lets keep going.

6. Move the arrow to three...NOW (snap) (snap = snap fingers)

7. Move the arrow to four...NOW (snap)

8. To five...NOW (snap)

9. To six...NOW (snap). You are really feeling it now, aren't you. How high would you like to go? (I ask this here because easy subjects are really susceptible, and you can crank them up really high quickly...and I want it to be a positive experience. It lets them tell you when it is time to stop). Follow their response.

10. There you go. How do you feel? You will notice that this good feeling with stay with you and you will feel this good every time you say Merry Christmas. This is my gift to you, have a Merry Christmas! Can I get a Ho Ho Ho?

John

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