A client with Attitude

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Permalink Reply by Brian Halliday on February 3, 2010 at 3:21pm

It is probably likely that he has two things going on. Firstly his body is conditioned to be a stress receptical. Teaching him how to relax on a regular basis is helpful. If you have your own CDs or recommend others he can use after his sessions with you it would be helpful.

Secondly it is likely that he is carrying a great deal of emotional baggage such as anger or sadness or fear or more than likely a combination of all those with guilt thrown in for good measure.

He may other underlying problems connected to those negative gestalts. My approach would be to get him to be specific about his problem then release all of the above and teach him self hypnosis supplemented with a recording for him to listen to regularly.

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Permalink Reply by Kelley Woods on February 3, 2010 at 3:36pm

Hello Sidney,

Back in a previous life, I was a police dispatcher. While this type of work is extremely rewarding and exciting, it is also fraught with emotional stress: imagine being responsible for people's safety and lives, not just the public's but the police officers' whom you also serve.

Brian is right: teaching your client how to decompress and release that stress during his work shift will be of huge benefit. One of the other contributors to his self described "attitude problem" may be that the general public may not be in the best of moods when they contact him. They are dumping all of their fears and anger on him (hey, not unlike being a hypnotherapist!). You can teach him how to keep from taking on these negative energies. I'm attaching a process that I would use with such a client to do just that.

Your client does a very valuable and under-appreciated service. Be sure to let him understand how important and appreciated it is. When we feel that we are taken for granted, it's easy to be surly. Perhaps you can anchor a congratulatory or thankful message that repeats each time he handles a call.

Best wishes,

Kelley

PS ~ My best 911 call ever was the citizen who phoned in that someone kept dumping dirt on his lawn. He was very irate. I sent an officer over to his house. 15 minutes later the officer reported over the air, "Complainant has moles." har har

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Permalink Reply by Donald Currie on February 3, 2010 at 5:53pm

I would ask him the following first

What people specifically does this happen with? ( Family? Friends? Co-workers? Everyone?)
What is the frequency?
How does it (attitude) manifest itself in his behaviours?
What is he feeling at that time?
What triggers it?
When did it begin? (What age)
ect.

Once you have more information then you can formulate what to do with the client in hypnosis.

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Permalink Reply by Pattie Freeman CH.t, MST on February 3, 2010 at 11:30pm

Wow..tnat is a stressful but, rewarding job.
I would work on his stress level and show him how to do self hypnosis to help him at home and on the job.
Remember we are all creatures of habit...so by showing him its possible to relieve the stress.. he can see
some hope and maybe learn to relax. He probably takes his job home with him so by showing him to let go
of the stress his home life will be better also.

Hope this helps...

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Permalink Reply by Ricky Strode on February 4, 2010 at 3:12am

Change behavior pattern, reframing and some downtime for him self. I would also suggest anchoring a type of phone(headset, or whatever) he uses to good feelings and use the quick phobia cure, but in a different way with some reframming and anchoring in the context of what he specifally does at work and do that five times. Not only would it take away from all the stree from negatives in his job, but the negatives would turn to a positive for him, so he would enjoy his job much more. The quick phoia cure is to set up the change pattern, before you start the anchoring and reframing. Then followed by the change behavior pattern, more specifically to add to the anchors and re-enforce positive feelings to his job and hence eustress..

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Permalink Reply by Michael Ellner on February 4, 2010 at 5:03am

Hi Sidney,

Not sure when or where client wants to improve his attitude problem -- May or may not be work related -- Many folks give their callers their best and have attitude problems with every one else.

I suggest you help the client create a resource state - the client's heart is happy, their mind is peaceful, and their spirit is playful and they feel so good they are able to give every one their best -- Blah, blah Blah -- Anchor it and give the client a cue to go there if necessary...

Warmest regards,

Michael E.

Michael E.

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Permalink Reply by Sidney King on February 4, 2010 at 5:43am

Wow!

What great advice...
I really do appreciate everyone’s input.

Thank You
Sidney

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Permalink Reply by Sidney King on February 4, 2010 at 5:48am

I have not made my own cds yet. Could you recommend where to buy one at?

Brian Halliday said:

It is probably likely that he has two things going on. Firstly his body is conditioned to be a stress receptical. Teaching him how to relax on a regular basis is helpful. If you have your own CDs or recommend others he can use after his sessions with you it would be helpful.

Secondly it is likely that he is carrying a great deal of emotional baggage such as anger or sadness or fear or more than likely a combination of all those with guilt thrown in for good measure.

He may other underlying problems connected to those negative gestalts. My approach would be to get him to be specific about his problem then release all of the above and teach him self hypnosis supplemented with a recording for him to listen to regularly.

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Permalink Reply by Sidney King on February 4, 2010 at 6:00am

I have learned the Self-Hypnosis 3-method through the NGH course but I don’t like it.
Could you recommend another way of teaching a client Self-Hypnosis.

Thank You

Pattie Freeman Ch.t, said:

Wow..tnat is a stressful but, rewarding job.
I would work on his stress level and show him how to do self hypnosis to help him at home and on the job.
Remember we are all creatures of habit...so by showing him its possible to relieve the stress.. he can see
some hope and maybe learn to relax. He probably takes his job home with him so by showing him to let go
of the stress his home life will be better also.

Hope this helps...

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Permalink Reply by AJ on February 4, 2010 at 11:29am

Hello Sidney,

I suggest this protocol to develop an awareness in your client:

1. Assessment: Pay attention to how your client is breathing.
2. Objective: Teach client how to control breath with self-hypnosis.
3. Session Work: Associate control of breath with control of anger while client is in hypnotic state.

Recommended reference book: "Science of Breath" by Yogi Ramacharaka

All the best,

Doc Regal

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Permalink Reply by Graham Old on February 4, 2010 at 11:45am

You could try the Betty Erickson method. Or look up Erickson's uptime/downtime inductions, which translates well into self-hypnosis.

Sidney King said:

I have learned the Self-Hypnosis 3-method through the NGH course but I don’t like it.
Could you recommend another way of teaching a client Self-Hypnosis.

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Permalink Reply by Kathleen Hanover on February 4, 2010 at 12:43pm

Hi Sidney,

It also sounds to me like your client isn't doing a good job of separating his "I" from his "R" (his "i" being his identity as a human being, his self, vs. his "r" meaning the roles he has, including his job.)

If you have a solid enough "I", it matters much less what you have going on in your "R" realm. There's an aphorism that illustrates this really well, a saying I've heard used by Christians: "Hate the sin, love the sinner." I think it's a healthy form of compartmentalization. I don't know how you address this with hypnotherapy, though.

Another tool I'd recommend is The Work by Byron Katie. It's life-changing. Again, it's not hypnotherapy, but it's awesome nonetheless.

Kathleen Hanover
"The Pretty Goodest Public Relations, 
Copywriting & Marketing Lady on the Planet"

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