Arrogance

A confident man tells you how good He is. An arrogant man tells you how bad everyone else is.

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Permalink Reply by Henxy on January 29, 2010 at 6:33am

Perhaps a confidence man need not tell you how good he is? Perhaps a confident man just knows he is good, and you think so too.

Perhaps an arrogant man thinks he's good, regardless of whether he is, whilst not caring whether anyone else is good or bad?

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Permalink Reply by James Malone on January 29, 2010 at 6:47am

Or is at CON man who tells you good he is and a truly confident man assumes you will figure it out for yourself?

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Permalink Reply by Kelley Woods on January 29, 2010 at 6:47am

Hmmm...is that capital "H" intentional...or not?! This could just be a trick! :)

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Permalink Reply by Richard Clark MFT on January 29, 2010 at 6:51am

I'm with Henxy,

Both boasting and bashing others seem pretty arrogant and lacking in self esteem to me.

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Permalink Reply by Jonathan Chase on January 29, 2010 at 7:03am

Okay - the meaning of the statement is in the result it gets.

WHEN ASKED... a confidant man tells you how good he is if it will benefit you in such a way as to raise your self esteem and benefit you in some way. An arrogant man does the other thing.

Kelly, Capitalization is Always Deliberate.

Ian, that's rubbish. If that were so then all the great thought leaders of our times would have destroyed themselves rather than say "I've had this idea and I think it's good."

Richard surely not all telling people you are good at something, such as telling them what qualifications you hold, is boasting? Or shows a lack of self esteem?

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Permalink Reply by Hugh Cole on January 29, 2010 at 7:11am

I,m with Richard ... Who is with Henxy .. who probably noticed the capital H also

Hugh Cole
The pretty Goodest Hypnotist on the Planet

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Permalink Reply by Richard Clark MFT on January 29, 2010 at 7:36am

Jonathan,

Surely, you are right in that not all statements of accomplishment and self value are boasting. Most people can discriminate the difference fairly easily.

Just as all statements relating the lack of value in others are not bashing.

It was your statement that started the discussion. Of course confidence and arrogance CAN be totally unrelated to either of the propositions you made.

Is there a point to your post or is it more like a free fortune cookie message?

Jonathan Chase said:

Richard surely not all telling people you are good at something, such as telling them what qualifications you hold, is boasting? Or shows a lack of self esteem?

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Permalink Reply by John R. Brochu on January 29, 2010 at 7:57am

Thank you for the reminder that you have a new book coming out.

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Permalink Reply by Henxy on January 29, 2010 at 10:22am

I like our club!

Hugh Cole said:

I,m with Richard ... Who is with Henxy .. who probably noticed the capital H also

Hugh Cole
The pretty Goodest Hypnotist on the Planet

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Permalink Reply by Doreen Cohanim C.Ht on January 30, 2010 at 6:04am

A confident man except criticism and is willing to listen to those who have different opinion or advice from his own and an arrogant man is unable to accept responsibility and criticism.

Doreen Cohanim C.Ht,HBCE

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Permalink Reply by Jan Krüger on January 30, 2010 at 3:51pm

Yeah, I'm not arrogant. I'm just naturally perfect, and I'll be happy to listen to your misguided objections just so you can feel good about yourself. See? Just pure confidence there.

Anyway, I don't find it useful to define arrogance, so don't expect any serious contributions from me. ;)

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Permalink Reply by Doreen Cohanim C.Ht on January 30, 2010 at 4:20pm

lol Jan, you already have :)
All the best :)
Doreen Cohanim C.Ht

Jan Krüger said:

Yeah, I'm not arrogant. I'm just naturally perfect, and I'll be happy to listen to your misguided objections just so you can feel good about yourself. See? Just pure confidence there.

Anyway, I don't find it useful to define arrogance, so don't expect any serious contributions from me. ;)