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Check out this article. I thought it was fascinating...and maybe more truth than poetry.....

"Mind-Mapping": How We Manipulate the People We Love

All too often, people do hurtful things with impunity and entitlement in relationships simply to gratify their own needs.
 
 
 
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 Conventional therapeutic wisdom aside, people typically don’t hurt each other because they’re out of touch, unable to communicate, or can’t help themselves. All too frequently, they do hurtful things with impunity and entitlement simply to gratify their own needs. It’s an article of faith among many couples therapists that bad behavior in troubled relationships stems primarily from good intentions gone wrong. They see their clients as frightened children, who may hurt each other, but mean no harm. Followers of attachment theory feel that an underlying “fear of abandonment” drives couples’ conflicts, and the ultimate therapeutic goal is to create a warm, empathic experience, at least partly to make up for what the client missed the first time around.

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Obviously we understand as Dr. Erickson as well as both Pavlov and Freud, how everyone actually suffers from their own Neurosis, then it's easy to feel that we are training our children with both sides of the mind, and actually teaching them the manner in which way they may assimilate information that is processed from their five senses. Therefore we may clearly comprehend that even the most, well meaning parents at times assist in the formation of certain psychosis. When you look back at your clients and see how it's not the smoking or overeating or whatever the case may be, but rather its the symptoms or outward manifestation of an inner problem that is the key to their being free from so many other forms of "acting out".

Sure over time as we communicate subliminally with each other we learn what hot buttons to push and which to pull in order to gain the control of others we are in close relationship with but don't feel it's more subliminal and unconscious than we really are aware of? What would you say to a hypothesis that we communicate more on subconscious levels than on conscious levels and especially with those closest to us, and can’t you see the realization of the sort of information suggested in this article is proof positive of this phenomenon.

I looked at this website you suggested and found many interesting articles so I would like to thank you for bringing them to my awareness.

Your friend Dennis

I'm glad you enjoyed it, Dennis.

I tend more to consider the simple and obvious first: self-ish-ness is an inbred survival skill.  The survivors reproduced.  Fortunately, those who were communal, realizing that there was power in numbers, also survived and reproduced.

I think that is this pull of these opposing drives that creates a lot of the tragi-comedy of being alive.

I'm glad you enjoyed it.

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