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Help Me Help One Of The Greatest Men I've Ever Known- Tom Hoobyar...

Dear Members of Hypnothoughts,

As I write this, I am still wiping away some of the tears that have been flowing regarding some news I very recently found out about. The tears aren't out of sadness, they aren't out of fear... The tears are out of a sincere love for one of the greatest human beings I have ever had the pleasure of knowing.

Many of you may know Tom Hoobyar, the founder of the longest running Free NLP Meetup groups called "The NLP Cafe". He also often writes articles for NLP Comprehensive.
 
Tom was recently diagnosed with metastatic pancreatic cancer.  In Western medicine, this still typically amounts to a death sentence.   


Not for Tom.
Years ago, when Duncan's Mom was battling throat cancer, someone wise said, "When they tell you they can 
A) cut you, 
B) poison you 
or 
C) burn you (to make you better) 

Ask for  Plan D!"

Fortunately, Tom has a "Plan D" that has taken he and his wife, Vikki, to a a very well-regarded cancer clinic in Mexico.   Tom is back in Reno now slugging it out after some intense treatment and is grateful for every prayer, healing thought and good wish you can send.
As you already know, this kind of care is not covered by insurance.  This is where each and every one of you reading this now can make a real and immediate difference in the life of one of the best men- if not the best man I've ever had the pleasure of knowing.

Your donations can be made here: For The Love of Tom
**When you donate a minimum of $25, please let me know and I will immediately send you a copy of my full hour long audio "Seeing Yourself Through The Eyes of Love" (Valued at $97) which many have shared with me to be one of the most powerful and moving audios they have ever experienced.

**When you donate a minimum of $150, I will provide you with a full month of coaching with me personally (Valued at $700) in any area you like. Whether it be building your practice, overcoming a personal block or challenge, you name it.

 
Tom is a man like no other and has been a friend, mentor, and even father figure to me on many occasions. He's been there to help me "pick myself up, dust myself off, and keep moving forward" on a number of occasions always believing in me and what I do. And most importantly, NEVER giving up on me, even during times when I wasn't even sure how I was going to pull out of the mess I had found myself in.

I will never forget the time I had made a bad business decision and after working together with a fellow trainer for over a year and a half, having a solid practice in the Bay area, I decided to move to San Diego. Well, right after that move, which meant starting my private practice all over again- from scratch. Immediately after my move, I was asked to sign a "no-competition clause" that was beyond any I had ever seen, and if I had signed, would have been the end of Empowerment Quest International.

After discussing things with my business partner- whom I also thought was a friend at the time- he stated very directly to me, "Listen Kevin... I know you have these big dreams of reaching millions of people, but let's be real, that's just not going to happen. Just sign the contract, work with me and everything will be great."

Now keep in mind, me not signing that contract also meant that I had no income- period, because of the fact that I had just moved to a new location.

Well, I didn't sign it and Tom helped me get myself together and pull things off. He believed in me and always has. And I believe in him.

For a number of years now, Tom has been my mentor and coach. I've often referred to him as my "Secret Weapon".

As I'm sure many of you can relate, it's not always easy doing your best to make the world a better place, but when times get tough for me, I can always hear Tom's voice saying... Kevin, the world needs you.

Well, this time Tom... The world owes you for all you've done...

**When you donate a minimum of $25, please let me know and I will immediately send you a copy of my full hour long audio "Seeing Yourself Through The Eyes of Love" (Valued at $97) which many have shared with me to be one of the most powerful and moving audios they have ever experienced.

**When you donate a minimum of $150, I will provide you a full month of coaching with me personally (Valued at $700) in any area you like. Whether it be building your practice, overcoming a personal block or challenge, you name it.

Again, you can donate here: For The Love of Tom

or here: http://www.gofundme.com/For-the-love-of-Tom?r=39998

 

Update, 9-25-11 : This morning, at 5:43a.m. my dear friend and mentor, Tom Hoobyar transitioned to another plane of existence.

 

Also, today at 2p.m. I visit my brother and his wife for the baby shower of their first boy.

Life's Purpose: Live, Grow, Evolve, and Contribute- On YOUR terms...


Tom truly lived his Purpose on this plane- And will continue to Live it in a different form...

 

There is now an additional voice that guides me in the work I do...


With Great Respect & Warmest Regards,

-Kevin

**Donations to support his family in paying for the incredibly high medical expenses are welcome- and needed.

Donate Here:  http://www.gofundme.com/For-the-love-of-Tom?r=39998

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If it were me, I'd go with plan D.  Good luck and many blessings.
I just booked the earliest flight to Reno I could. It's not until 6:45 a.m. and it's not certain if he'll make it- but I've got to give it my best shot. I considered driving, but I'd end up with 3 speeding tickets to make it before the flight.

Right now, it's costing his family $20,000 per day ($4,000 out of pocket) so yes those donations are very much needed. I donated $500 already and will probably end up offering more. Again, you're help is appreciated...

-Kevin

You're very generous, Kevin, and Tom is lucky to have you as a friend. Once I get on my feet, I will happily contribute.
A few people have compassionately emailed me offline offering to do a free session with me to help me through my "tough time" and some have stated that perhaps I should accept the fact that Tom will most likely not make it through stage 4 cancer, and currently being on life support.

As much as I sincerely appreciate the sentiments, allow me to share two things.

1. Whatever happens, I am truly at peace with it. I don't believe anything or anyone ever dies, things just change form. Sure if Tom passes on to the next plane,  I will miss being able to just call up and share my successes and or ask for advice, but I'm at peace with whatever happens.

2. No matter how severe Tom's current state is, there's still hope- and as I've heard Michael Ellner say, "Hope is realistic". And as the guy in Shawshank Redemption says, "Hope Is A Good Thing, And A Good Thing Never Dies..."

Here's an article Tom wrote a while back that you can read below or on his site here: http://www.tomhoobyar.com/2010/10/a-fern-named-lazarus/

A Fern Named Lazarus

by tom.hoobyar

I have an asparagus fern named Lazarus.

Why did I name him Lazarus? I'll tell you why.

I named him Lazarus because when I first got him for my batchelor  apartment I was sometimes a neglectful caretaker.

I got the plant so there would be something alive in my apartment besides me. It came in a small green plastic pot about the size of a coffee mug and cost two dollars. It was a little green living thing and it kept me a kind of quiet company.

But, I was freshly separated from my wife and I used my apartment mostly as a
place to grab a shower and change clothes. So this new little fern got
overlooked, sometimes for days at a time.

Sometimes even longer…

Then one day I'd notice that I had a pot in my kitchen window full of dried
brown sticks with a little bit of green still showing. I'd panic and water it
and give it some plant food and do a little wishing that it wouldn't die.

And amazingly, it would come back.

In a week or so there would be small tender green shoots with little soft
needles on them, and with some (almost) regular watering the fern would
gradually fill out.

Then I would cut the dead stalks out and it would become lush and beautiful.

Till a couple of months later when I would take off for a long weekend followed
by some busy weeks at home, and more neglect. The thing is, giving Lazarus
regular timely attention would only have taken a few minutes a week.

But I would forget, then I would notice that the fern was dead (except for maybe
one or two green branches) and I would water it and feed it and pray a little
and it would come back.

That's why I called him Lazarus. Because he kept coming back from the dead just
like the guy in the bible.

Lazarus, The Fern That Wouldn't Die.

Lazarus has been with me for thirty four years, most of my adult lifetime.

This plant has been my mostly green companion through marriages, businesses and
many adventures, good times and not-so-good times. He has been moved from house
to house and city to mountains and back again.

He spent about ten years in the ground at one house, but for the last fifteen
years he's lived in a pot. Actually a series of pots, each one a little larger.

Now he is about to outgrow a pot that is two feet in diameter and about as high,
and his whole setup weighs about forty pounds.

I have to prune his dead stalks at least once a year now. He (and I) have a
little age on us, but we've been companions together for a long long time.

We've just moved him to a new home, in the high desert east of the Sierra
Mountains. I watered Lazarus today out on our front porch, where he is adjusting
to the hot summer days and the freezing autumn nights, and preparing for the
coming winter snow. I don't know if I'll need to move him indoors or not. I
figure he'll let me know.

In the three and a half decades that this fern has been with me I've been
through many of life's changes — parenthood and loss of my own parents, changes
in mates and friends and jobs, and the seasons of a lifetime.

At this point you may be wondering, why am I taking my time (and yours) to tell
you about a geriatric house plant?

See, Lazarus isn't a redwood tree that will live for centuries and neither am I. We're not gonna be here that long. So it's important to notice the elements that surround us in life and take what learning is offered.

I'm telling you about Lazarus because I've learned something precious from him.

The lesson that Lazarus has taught me (and perhaps you too) is that where there
is attention there is life. And where there is neglect things begin to die.

What is not attended to in our lives will shrivel up. These things might be
relationships, plants, projects, or our own personal growth practices.

And yet, even when something has been neglected almost too long, there is hope
that with attention you may encourage it to come back into bloom.

I've learned from Lazarus never to give up on something because it may be "too
late to do anything".

I've learned that there is a divine spark of life that comes from somewhere
outside of us. And it's in us too. It just needs a touch of acceptance, of
attention. Valuable things in our lives have a will to live, to forgive neglect
and to grow new shoots, new ideas and inspirations.

I invite you to think about it. Might there be something like Lazarus in your
life that could use a little fresh attention? Only takes a few minutes a week to
save something and maybe enrich your own life.

Hmmm.

Seeya,

Tom Hoobyar

I visited my mentor and best friend in the hospital today. The moment I heard he was in stage 4 of pancreatic cancer, I jumped on the first plane I could get, because I knew… I just had to be there. I got there at about 8a.m. and stayed until about 10a.m.

 

It was just me and him. I spoke with him and he spoke with me. No, he didn’t speak out loud. He’s on life support and not able to speak in that way, but I could hear him. I could hear him loud and clear.

 

He just kept saying to me… “Kevin, you’ve got work to do. There are millions of people that need what you have to share with the world. You’re like me, you’re a protector and you know that we should always help those that can’t or don’t know how to help and protect themselves. Make me even more proud of you than I already am and continue building what you’re building. You may not have a “leather ass” like me, but your sensitive soul is just as strong if not stronger because it comes from an unstoppable force, Love. You have the same energy as my father. It's your sensitivity that is your greatest strength. You’ve worked hard to get where you’re at and you did it for all the right reasons. I’m always in your corner and I know you’re always in mine…”

 

Those were the words I just kept hearing from him as I sat next to him holding his hand and sending him energy. I heard those words so clearly, because those are words he has shared with me on many occasions.

 

I wanted to wait around longer- to at least say hello to his family, but I just kept hearing him say “I’m always in your corner, and I know you’re in mine- but I need you to get back out there and reach the people that need us most and you’re not going to do that talking to me in this hospital bed. You’re going to do that by taking the love you have for me and the love that I have for you- and letting that energy drive you even more”.

 

So I finally left his side, physically but not in spirit.

 

Tom Hoobyar is one of the greatest men, scratch that… Tom Hoobyar is THE greatest man I’ve ever had the honor of calling my friend. Many might say they’ve got your back when you need it most, but few truly mean it.

 

As I sit here in the airport waiting for my flight back to Vegas, the tears just flow and I know people feel sad for me and I want to tell them… Don’t feel sad for me because these are not tears of sadness, these are tears of pure love and joy for having the absolute honor and privilege to have a friend and mentor such as Tom Hoobyar. The best man I know…

 

This one, and many others to come are for you Tom.

 

With Tremendous Love & Gratitude. I WILL make you proud and your legacy will live on...

 

-Kevin

Thank you for sharing.  This is very touching.

 

Such an exquisite gift, Kevin.  Thank you for sharing Tom...and Lazarus.  Where there is life, there is hope.  Always.

Thoughts and prayers are with your friend Tom and his family. God Bless him for all that he has shared with you.

 

Shirley

Hi Kevin,

I've never met Tom and in fact, before your post (I just returned from a week incommunicado) I had never heard of him. But, now...I feel like I do. I imagine that if you were to see yourself through the eyes of love, those eyes just may be Tom's. What a marvelous, living gift you hold and graciously share with the world. May it continue to support you, along with our friendship.

Love, Kelley

What a great thing to bring to our attention.  The stranglehold the AMA and big PHARMA have on our options for medical care is criminal.  Concern and prayers (of any type or stripe) can bring great healing effects.

 

Susan

http://www.hypno4success.com

Damn you Kelley.... and I mean that in the most wonderful way...

Thank you for the gift you just gave me...

Kelley Woods said:

Hi Kevin,

I've never met Tom and in fact, before your post (I just returned from a week incommunicado) I had never heard of him. But, now...I feel like I do. I imagine that if you were to see yourself through the eyes of love, those eyes just may be Tom's. What a marvelous, living gift you hold and graciously share with the world. May it continue to support you, along with our friendship.

Love, Kelley

This morning, at 5:43a.m. my dear friend and mentor,
Tom Hoobyar transitioned to another plane of existence.

Also, today at 2p.m. I visit my brother and his wife for
the baby shower of their first boy.

Life's Purpose: Live, Grow, Evolve, and Contribute- On YOUR terms...


Tom truly lived his Purpose on this plane-
And will continue to Live it in a different form...

 

There is now an additional voice that guides me in the work I do...


With Great Respect & Warmest Regards,

-Kevin

**Donations to support his family in paying for the incredibly high medical expenses are welcome- and  needed.

Donate Here:  http://www.gofundme.com/For-the-love-of-Tom?r=39998

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