Hypnosis for sexual desire

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Permalink Reply by Bernard Rapol on February 5, 2012 at 1:39am

Hi Richard,

not yet, but yes with male impotence.

Easiest is regression to cause. Has he given you details on what might be behind it?

If there's stuff like failed relationships, being put down, being cheated, etc. then pretty sure there is an underlying cause. Find that, fix it and all will be solved.

Greetings,

Bernard

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Permalink Reply by Barry Neale on February 5, 2012 at 4:13am

Hi

It's not clear from your post whether your client is male or female?

 

barry

 

 

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Permalink Reply by Marc Whipple on February 5, 2012 at 5:06am

Can they not orgasm during *sex* or not *at all?*

If not at all (medical description "anorgasmia" or "anorgasmic,") they need to seek medical attention, as this could have a wide variety of physical causes and is uncommon enough to warrant a trip to the doctor.

Also, you are conflating "sexual desire" and "orgasm." The two are related but not the same thing at all. Does the person not desire to have sex period, or not desire to have sex because they are convinced they will be frustrated due to failure to orgasm or fear of disappointing their partner? This is a much more complicated question than it first appears (as are most questions, unfortunately.)

As far as, "Can hypnosis be effective in this kind of situation," the answer is a nearly unqualified yes. Absent medical problems, a good hypnotic subject can experience a really mind-boggling (if you'll pardon the expression) response to hypnotic suggestions regarding sexual desire and sensation. But you need to know what the root problems are before just charging in with instant-orgasm suggestions. I'm sure you're doing that, but your posting doesn't give enough detail for helpful discussion.

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Permalink Reply by John Cleesattel on February 5, 2012 at 8:59am

Yes.

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Permalink Reply by Omar Alexandro on February 5, 2012 at 2:05pm

I worked with a client whom had a sex addiction and at the same time, problem with his wife, cuz he wasn't really enjoying sex very much with her. And neither she did. So, I first dealed with the sex addiction, and then, I asked him (With direct suggestion) focus all that sexual strongness to his wife. I made a regression to the moment when he was most in love with her, and had him feeling that for a little while, then increased it and keep it for life. Then asked him to sexually enjoy not only intercourse, but his trigger is whatever pleases her.

 So, after a month, he called me telling me his wife fell in love with him like never before, and he enjoys sex more than never ever before. But now he needed like to be able to last longer. I, then, asked him with direct suggestion to have a perfect control over his lasting and enjoy it even more.

 He called me after a month to thank me.

 I hope this help your question :)

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Permalink Reply by Pete Richards on February 5, 2012 at 5:50pm

HI Richard

I have an existing client who has exactly the same issue, he also suffers from shy bladder. I have tried direct suggestion and regression to the intial event, a school event in the school washrooms. Nothing has had an effect on either his shy bladder or his inability to orgasm during intercourse.

My clients particular issue surrounds being watched and the expectation of performance, either peeing or orgasm. Oddly he does not have an issue orgasming during oral sex , only during intercourse.

any advice or help anyone has with this would be greatly appreciated

Pete

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Permalink Reply by Durrat Motiwala on February 5, 2012 at 7:43pm

yes 

you can do his age regression first in time slot of 5 years or 10 years gap then take him to pre natal or peri natal time i mean when  hes in his mothers womb and at tiem of taking birth many time problems occur tht time too or else if u do not find the root cause there do his  PLR and can find out its root cause guiding his sub concious mind to un reveal the origin of the problems....

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Permalink Reply by Melissa J. Roth on February 5, 2012 at 8:30pm

I have helped several women and a couple of men to orgasm during intercourse.  In every case I've worked with (but it isn't necessarily the only reason) the person has been molested or raped sometime during their earlier life.  This is a big problem for incest victims.  One woman whom I remember distinctly had been repeatedly raped by her step father for several years.  Once, when he was raping her she had an orgasm and he said, "See, you do like it."   20 years later, she was happily married with 3 children but had never had an orgasm during sex and only had sex with her husband to please him.  She never desired or initiated sex and never had an orgasm.  She wanted to desire her husband and she wanted to experience an orgasm.  We had a total of 2 sessions. #1 was a 5 step Parts reframe and the other was to reduce anxiety.  I heard from her at one week and one month intervals and from her psychologist on a regular basis.  She had a whole new lease on life, enjoyed sex in an appropriate setting and had learned to orgasm.  

Women do not orgasm with the regularity that men do.  Most women (if you believe what the literature says and what many women tell me) never orgasm during sex.  That's pretty sad. But, they can learn to orgasm first by masturbating and then with a partner.  

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Permalink Reply by Amy Marsh on February 6, 2012 at 7:20am

Hi,

I really like Marc's points. For sexual dysfunction of almost any kind, I always recommend getting a check up with a medical doctor first, no matter what. For example, erectile dysfunction can sometimes be associated with circulation problems resulting from diabetes.

I also appreciate Melissa's points about sexual abuse and rape. Hypnotists might find Staci Haine's work helpful with regard to "triggers" experienced by sexual abuse and rape survivors, and strategies to overcome them. 

However, with regard to the generalization about "most women never orgasm during sex" (I assume penis/vagina intercourse is what is meant here by "sex"), I am not sure we can say that the literature supports this conclusion 100%. However, I do agree that learning about your own body through conscious exploration in masturbation is a plus for everyone, male, female, and others. 

However, there is one interesting and seldom acknowledged fact about the physiology of female orgasmic response vs male physiology of orgasm and ejaculation. You can read about it here:

http://www.yourtango.com/experts/dr--amy-marsh/what-sexologists-don...

I also want to remind people that with sexual concerns, sometimes the problem can result from a more complex assortment and mixture of internal and external factors such as: the partner's lovemaking skills (or lack thereof); sensory dysfunction issues; unacknowledged sexual preferences that may be seen as detrimental to the relationship and are therefore repressed; gender expression and identity issues (ditto); feeling like sex is a duty and a chore; boredom; harsh religious, cultural, or familial attitudes toward sexuality; etc. etc. etc.

Amy  

 

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Permalink Reply by Richard Barker on February 7, 2012 at 9:59am

The client is actually female and claims to have a great sexual desire and drive but has never experienced an orgasm in her life. She has indicated to me that it could be a control issue. I appreciate all of your answers so far it really is helping to formulate a plan, I think may be a regression technique could be the answer--any more thoughts?

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Permalink Reply by Amy Marsh on February 7, 2012 at 10:07am

Hi Richard,

Does she masturbate at all? If so, does this mean she's never orgasmed then, either?

Has she ever used sex toys? 

Does she tend to sleep with several blankets?

Does she find certain noises, textures, sensations, types of touch difficult to bear?

There's a reason I'm asking all this.

Amy

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Permalink Reply by Justin James on February 7, 2012 at 10:08am

Richard. Here are a couple of thoughts. First make certain your sessions are taped or observed as you can find yourself in a very bad situation with these types of clientele. Take all precautions.

Secondly regressing someone who has never experienced something is a waste of time. You said its a control issue... Work from that direction.... Get her to work on relaxing and staying in an experience... People with control issues many times will distract themselves by playing their to do list in their head or something else...

Justin

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