Laughter at inappropriate times

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Permalink Reply by Henxy on August 3, 2009 at 8:24am

It seems like an exageration of a response to stress that some kids have: to giggle. And just as with kids, being asked what's funny, or having to stop laughing suddenly, due to being told off, it makes the compulsion even more so.

Has this lady been holding herself back for a while? Hiding her feelings? In that circumstance, something has to give, and she would have to express herself in some way. Has she grieved for the loss of her marriage?

Some general work on release might help.

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Permalink Reply by Fable Goodman on August 3, 2009 at 9:36am

Laughter is just one of the ways in which we release fear.
Light fears like embarassment can be released by giggly type laughter,
Terror by hysterical high pitched laughter.
Guilt (which is fuelled by fear of judgement/punishment, or being found out), somewhere in between.

Work on letting go of fear, tensions, guilt etc, and give full permisssion for her to laugh as much as she needs to in the session.

Use a double bind, "the more you try to stop laughing, and try to hold it in, the more the laughter will come out, and the more you let out now, the more relaxed you will be afterwards."

Ad lib along these lines.

Personally I like to have a good laugh when kissing and cuddling 'etc' Nothing wrong with that, and I don't find it inappropriate.

Love and hugs,


Fable

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Permalink Reply by John Cleesattel on August 3, 2009 at 8:18pm

To me, this has "defense mechanism" written all over it. I would suggest parts therapy to find out the purpose, and that should provide you with a direction to go.

I hope that helps you
John

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Permalink Reply by J Z Williams on August 7, 2009 at 1:24am

Hi John,

Yourself and others have mentioned parts therapy and so I am re reading Roy Hunters chapter on Parts in the Art of Hypnotherapy. I have not used this much before,and I noticed from his book that he prefers not to use this method in the first session because he feels the first session should be pleasant.

Does anyone else have any thoughts on this. Thanks for your comments by the way.

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Permalink Reply by Dave Anthony on August 7, 2009 at 2:33am

Yes, it seems very much like a stress response. Maybe you could just install a simple post hypnotic keyword that she says to herself to relax when she is in these situations.

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Permalink Reply by John Cleesattel on August 7, 2009 at 6:47am

I guess I don't understand why a parts therapy session should be considered unpleasant? Most of my clients think its pretty neat. I haven't read Roy Hunter's book, so I don't know what he says about it, or why he thinks it would be unpleasant. Hmmm... Ah well, follow those you wish to follow and good luck with it.

John

J Z Williams said:

Hi John,

Yourself and others have mentioned parts therapy and so I am re reading Roy Hunters chapter on Parts in the Art of Hypnotherapy. I have not used this much before,and I noticed from his book that he prefers not to use this method in the first session because he feels the first session should be pleasant.

Does anyone else have any thoughts on this. Thanks for your comments by the way.

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Permalink Reply by Steve Andrade on August 7, 2009 at 6:54am

Hi J Z Williams,

J Z Williams said:

Hi John,

Yourself and others have mentioned parts therapy and so I am re reading Roy Hunters chapter on Parts in the Art of Hypnotherapy. I have not used this much before,and I noticed from his book that he prefers not to use this method in the first session because he feels the first session should be pleasant.

Does anyone else have any thoughts on this. Thanks for your comments by the way.

Hello,
As far as parts therapy in the first session, I’m not familiar with Roy Hunter’s book. I am now interested in looking into buying a copy of the book.

What I was taught about the first session though, was that basically the first session is all about conditioning. You allow them to experience hypnosis, you get them comfortably deep, you introduce post hypnotic suggestions so that the next time they can go easily right back to the depth they are now. You want them to feel good for their first session, whether it’s the first time they have been totally relaxed, whether you pointed out to them something that fascinates them about their mind and how hypnosis works, or whether you give them some hope in the days to come by how they will notice something they have not noticed before about how they are now starting to make the positive changes they knew were possible…..etc…..

I say, keep all this in mind, and use your intuition, everyone is different. I know clients want everything fixed in the first session……and to leave feeling good is a great alternative and encourages return visits. There are usually many layers. Baby steps, one small change today opens the door. There’s always more than one thing people would like to change.

Thanks for starting this discussion; I was wondering where to read up on parts therapy, different techniques and different opinions on it.

Steve

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Permalink Reply by Joshua Johnston on August 7, 2009 at 9:25am

The "unpleasant" comment is simply that parts therapy, like regression work, can bring up some uncomfortable stuff. Such as finding out there's a part of you that *wants* you to be fat. Like Steve said, Roy's book has the idea that the first session should be about conditioning and making sure their first experience of hypnosis is as completely positive as possible. No dealing with "heavy" stuff in that first session.

Parts therapy isn't necessarily unpleasant, but it *can* be, so he prefers to do it after that initial conditioning session.

Steve, I've got his book, though not the newest one, and I've taken his weekend class on it. Good stuff. Definitely look into getting it.

Joshua

John Cleesattel said:

I guess I don't understand why a parts therapy session should be considered unpleasant? Most of my clients think its pretty neat. I haven't read Roy Hunter's book, so I don't know what he says about it, or why he thinks it would be unpleasant. Hmmm... Ah well, follow those you wish to follow and good luck with it.

John

J Z Williams said:

Hi John,

Yourself and others have mentioned parts therapy and so I am re reading Roy Hunters chapter on Parts in the Art of Hypnotherapy. I have not used this much before,and I noticed from his book that he prefers not to use this method in the first session because he feels the first session should be pleasant.

Does anyone else have any thoughts on this. Thanks for your comments by the way.

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Permalink Reply by John Cleesattel on August 7, 2009 at 10:44am

Joshua
Thanks for the explanation. As someone from the old "one session is all it takes" school of thought, it was not something I had considered in the past. None of my clients were ever upset or uncomfortable during parts therapy and mostly viewed it as a neat experience that usually revealed what the problem really was. Happy news for them because now they knew and it could be addressed. However; as one who now understands the value of multiple sessions from a business standpoint, the first session being used only for establishing a positive experience and conditioning the client, works as good as any other sound business philosophy.

I appreciate it
John

Joshua Johnston said:

The "unpleasant" comment is simply that parts therapy, like regression work, can bring up some uncomfortable stuff. Such as finding out there's a part of you that *wants* you to be fat. Like Steve said, Roy's book has the idea that the first session should be about conditioning and making sure their first experience of hypnosis is as completely positive as possible. No dealing with "heavy" stuff in that first session.
Parts therapy isn't necessarily unpleasant, but it *can* be, so he prefers to do it after that initial conditioning session. Steve, I've got his book, though not the newest one, and I've taken his weekend class on it. Good stuff. Definitely look into getting it.

Joshua

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Permalink Reply by Ryan Joseph O'Leary on August 7, 2009 at 10:44am

What is parts therapy? In a nutshell, or through a link.

Joshua Johnston said:

The "unpleasant" comment is simply that parts therapy, like regression work, can bring up some uncomfortable stuff. Such as finding out there's a part of you that *wants* you to be fat. Like Steve said, Roy's book has the idea that the first session should be about conditioning and making sure their first experience of hypnosis is as completely positive as possible. No dealing with "heavy" stuff in that first session.

Parts therapy isn't necessarily unpleasant, but it *can* be, so he prefers to do it after that initial conditioning session.

Steve, I've got his book, though not the newest one, and I've taken his weekend class on it. Good stuff. Definitely look into getting it.

Joshua

John Cleesattel said:

I guess I don't understand why a parts therapy session should be considered unpleasant? Most of my clients think its pretty neat. I haven't read Roy Hunter's book, so I don't know what he says about it, or why he thinks it would be unpleasant. Hmmm... Ah well, follow those you wish to follow and good luck with it.

John

J Z Williams said:

Hi John,

Yourself and others have mentioned parts therapy and so I am re reading Roy Hunters chapter on Parts in the Art of Hypnotherapy. I have not used this much before,and I noticed from his book that he prefers not to use this method in the first session because he feels the first session should be pleasant.

Does anyone else have any thoughts on this. Thanks for your comments by the way.

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Permalink Reply by Donna Carter on August 7, 2009 at 12:00pm

Parts therapy - in a nutshell is: a concept based on the idea that each individual has a personality that has many different parts to it. Such as... when you are with your kids you are in 'kid mode', when at work 'work mode', when you are with your spouse 'mate mode', etc. etc. Essentially, wearing different hats.
There is certain inner conflicts that happen when one 'mode' likes to have a certain behavior and the other mode does not like it... such as in smoking (one part of you wants to party it up with cigs and the other one knows it is bad for you), and weight issues (one part of you wants to be healthy the other part feels great when they get the joy of binging on a tub of triple chocolate ice cream dessert).
Parts therapy is the process of helping the parts (modes) in conflict to no longer be in conflict....hopefully moving toward the part that is most healthy for you.

You might check out Roy Hunters book "hypnosis for Inner Conflict Resolution (introducing Parts Therapy)"... I read it a while back and found it most enlightening. It's a good read. Roy is a member here on hypnothoughts, I'm sure you can easily find his website.


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What is parts therapy? In a nutshell, or through a link.

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Permalink Reply by Steve Andrade on August 7, 2009 at 12:03pm

Hello again,
John Cleesattel said:

Joshua
Thanks for the explanation. As someone from the old "one session is all it takes" school of thought, it was not something I had considered in the past. None of my clients were ever upset or uncomfortable during parts therapy and mostly viewed it as a neat experience that usually revealed what the problem really was. Happy news for them because now they knew and it could be addressed. However; as one who now understands the value of multiple sessions from a business standpoint, the first session being used only for establishing a positive experience and conditioning the client, works as good as any other sound business philosophy

I love parts therapy, I think if one session can do the trick, and I know it has from experience, then one session is just as good if not better than many, of course not from the business angle, and I wasn't coming from the business angle, that's not where my passion comes from, it may be where my food will come from but I was just agreeing that the first session can be something different than a fix everything in one session.

And if you can fix everything in one session, it never hurts to also make it a pleasant experience, and if you have them at the level of trance that is needed for them to make the changes they are seeking, might as well anchor that depth that works for them with a post hypnotic suggestion and bring them up and back in again just to make sure.

And if they need more sessions, or they want more sessions, or you feel they need more, it's a good chance they will be back to see you, and you can pick up where you left off as far trance wise.

And even if you only use the firs session for just conditioning, that's ok, but that is a good session to condition whether it's the only one or one of many......and every client should leave the first session feeling better than they came in, from being a good hypnotherapist or from a financial stand point.

It also serves as free advertisement when they tell their friends how good they felt coming out.

Steve

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