Need help to tackle this one, please advise approach

Hello everyone, slowly the word is coming out that "I do hypnosis" and today I got someone in my fb chat with a situation. I would like your input on how to tackle this. Here is a transcript of the chat:

CLIENT

hey congrats with that certificate u have... so tell me how do we work this out my girl is actually interested in being hypnotized can u give me some details about this plss....

##Me

Hey man, how you doing? Ok: hypnosis. Tell me what your girlfriend wants to achieve? Does she have a habit she wants to eliminate? (smoking/nail biting/over eating/drinking) Or eliminate a certain fear? (heights, depths, water, airplane, closed spaces etc) Or wants motivation to excel in something? In hypnotherapy the sessions are customized for each individual. Let me know what change is needed and why. All the best man!

CLIENT

Well im glad to know ur bike back in top shape i have to work on mine battery is dead n i did not ride for mths...
The smoking n drinking thing could be an asset but she really wants to know if u can take her back in time to uncover details of certain things she may have blocked from her conscious mind or surpressed.... she feels she had blocked certain details of her past from herself, so what do u think

##Me

and is this current thought restricting her live in any way now?

CLIENT

well i understand these feelings have caused her to be distant from her family (mother father n brother mainly) she is unable to be fully open with them even avoids them at times

##Me

I see.There is something called "age regression" whereby as you said, bring her back to a time before this happened,up till the moment it happenedfind out what exactly happenedto cause this 'block'remove itand be happy

CLIENT

she has told me some things she remembers n i think it is possible that this is the situation i dont know if she can take u to an exact moment may even be a series of eventsis it possible some time we can just get together n u just talk together n see if u can pick up more than i did

##Me

ok. she must be really wanting to find out. because she could even in 'trance' purposely hide it.or lie about itit's not like a hypnotherapist can have her do things she doesn't want

CLIENT

she does really wantok more details for u to work withfrom a very tender young age of bout 8 she remembers uncontrollable urges to masturbate multiple times a day

#Me

CLIENT

everyday but feels it comes from something she did block out in order to move on with her lifeso she really would like to know if so what exactly it is b\c she avoids her family altogetherthinking it has something to do with some part of the family

##Me

So, she is currently avoiding the family.But yet, she would like to have a normal relationship with the family?

CLIENT

she only really communicates with her sister
##Me

What is her reaction or goes on in her mind if you say let's go see so and so in the family?

CLIENT

she always wanted to be good with them all but has a blockshe lives with me here n the family is in surinameso its phone contact

##Me

ok. can you explain the block? if you would say "let's call uncle Johnny"

CLIENT

n she wont call them they call her
##Me

what comes up in her mind? "Are you crazy?"

CLIENT

i sometimes force her to answer the phone when family calls
##Me

and when she get called by them, she takes a distance? or have a normal conversation?

CLIENT

her father wanted to come visitshe found every possible excuse for him to not come
##Me

okay.

CLIENT

so far she only answers her sister reallydont even talk to her brother at all
##Me

You see, psychologists would want to find out what caused this.

CLIENT

n cant understand y

##Me

and drag on on this, and have ongoing sessions

CLIENT

they used to be very close

##Me

a hypnotherapist doesn't look at what caused it, butlooks at what the problem is, "the block"the feelings associated with itand turn that aroundDid she ever go see a psychologist?
CLIENT

nope
##Me

Let me think about how to tackle this one, okay?

CLIENT

lol

##Me

I will send you a questionaire(not right now)
CLIENT

u got us cracking up here
##Me

so before we meet (lol)
##Me

:-)pretty unusual request thoughok thats good
CLIENT

my baby got issuesnahhh but her everyday life is quite normalshe is fun loving happy caring person
##Me

I understand that.Everyone has somethingThis is all totally normal
CLIENTbut she just cant get comfortable mainly wit father n brother
##Me

did she ever get lashes from them?
CLIENT

if she talks about them she has all the best things to sayshe was treated like a lil princess by them
##Me

what about her mother? she doesn't want to speak to mother neither?ok
CLIENT

but she just cant talk to themmother is never available as an individualshe feels if she can get her 1 on 1 it should be okbut her father is always on the extension line so she dont talk to them anymore
##Me

ok
##Me

are her parents and brother usually overpowering her (controlling)
CLIENT

the way she was yes growing up yesthe had strict guidlines

##Me

I wonder if now, since she is detached from family 'she is free as a bird' and when association comes up of 'family' she fears to relinquish her freedom?
CLIENT

she left suriname soon as she was 18 n came here on her own been here ever since she is now 35she got married here 2 kids of her own

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Permalink Reply by John Cleesattel on September 26, 2011 at 1:07pm

The first thing you would need to do is talk to HER.

Evidently he is not the client, she is; so find out what it is that she wants and determine if you can give it to her.

Client by proxy is never a good way to go when asking about what to do, so take this for what it's worth and good luck with it.

We'll be here if you have more questions

John

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Permalink Reply by Brian David Phillips on September 26, 2011 at 3:24pm

I absolutely agree with John. If she is the client then talk to her. If he is paying for the hypnosis, then she is still the client. Confirm that she actually wishes to pursue the work as well (I've seen too many folks claim their girlfriend/boyfriend/husband/wife/child need hypnosis only to discover that things were being represented other than they were).

Once you speak with her, you can get a sense of what her actual presenting issues are - if any - and how to proceed.

Are you planning in-person hypnosis or via webchat and if the latter by voice or text? I ask because there are some processes that are not appropriate unless trained and in person (he asks for age regression and I would NEVER do that sort of work except in person and I would absolutely never suggest it unless the hypnotist is both well trained and very competent).

- Brian

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Permalink Reply by Dimitrios on September 28, 2011 at 5:37pm

Hi Brian, thanks for the answer. I am not that experienced in age regression, hence I snugged it off a bit. I don't even think it is necessary to know. But I was planning to hypnotize her live, (probably her boyfriend would be there too) and just suggest that when her family calls she will be so happy and so full of energy to grab that phone and have a wonderful conversation. And that she would want to have at least weekly conversations with each member of the family. Is that a good approach?

Hi John, thanks his girlfriend was sitting next to him, and the idea was for us to meet with her. How would you tackle this one? Avoid the finding out what is blocking, or just neglect that and suggest "great phonecalls with family"?

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Permalink Reply by John Cleesattel on September 28, 2011 at 7:23pm

Dimitrios,

Like both Brian and I said, talk to her and find out what "she" wants. Have you ever been hungry and had them ask the person next to you if you want something to eat?

I would find out what her presenting issue is, and and then ask my favorite question: If anything were possible...i.e. we had Aladdin's lamp and could make a wish...what would be the best solution for this issue?

Her reply would give me guidance for the direction we need to go.

I hope that helps

John

Dimitrios said:

Hi John, thanks his girlfriend was sitting next to him, and the idea was for us to meet with her. How would you tackle this one? Avoid the finding out what is blocking, or just neglect that and suggest "great phonecalls with family"?