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Personal or professional debates?
Many of the debates on Hypnothoughts begin as professional ones, discussing differing view points, differences in techniques etc..that said, often they seem to de evolve into personal debates, defensive back and forth and, what could be perceived as personal attacks.
What does it mean to you to be a professional hypnotist or hypnotherapist in terms of other professionals?
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Permalink Reply by Celeste Hackett, CH on -
Right on. I couldn't agree more. Very happy to see this post. Of course, I've been posting about ego and trying to check my own at the door. Something I have to continually be aware of. And you know she really can sneak in a back door let me tell you!
I think the best hypnotist is admired by other emotionallyy balanced, mature, wise, generous and warm-hearted hypnosis professionals. And when you are, by that time, you hold those qualities also. Love or loving kindness is the bottom line. In fact, these qualities are the bottom line to any worthwhile "becoming" in life. Even, if you look at just having good manners, being loving is at the core of good manners.
I do hope more posts like this one will begin to pop up. They keep us looking within ourselves as we strive to be the best we can be. And they cause us to know that others are taking our behavior and our actions into consideration when deciding if a hypnotist is worth referring to or seeking out knowledge from.
Love
Celeste Hackett
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Permalink Reply by David Owen on -
Good post. Hypnotherapy (UK perspective) is not like other professions. I am a member of a Chartered Institute where the emphasis is on sharing good practice and helping collegues. When it comes to hypnotherapy it is about secrecy, learning on your own, being competitive. Much of the UK experience is because as a profession credibility is low and involvement with healthcare is on the margins. Oportunities to change this have largely been squandered. It becomes up to individuals to further their status within their trading environment. Ultimately a vicious circle.
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Permalink Reply by Tim Shay on -
Personally, from the perspective of someone who enjoys many a forum, I have noticed that that kind of behavior tends to attract those seeking validation for their own personal choices and ego gratification. As a student of all things hypnotic, I have noticed that people who are looking to understand may not want to enter the conversation for fear of upsetting the ego dragon. I believe forums are more functional when they engage and invite posting. Personal agenda and personal attacks tend to be detrimental to that cause. Of course, I could be wrong ( and admitting that may be the difference).
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Permalink Reply by owen mcginty on -
Some people never learn.
I hope I never become one of those people.
:)
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Permalink Reply by Celeste Hackett, CH on
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Sometimes when reading those embarrassing to the profession posts I say to myself, "Oh Lord, here we go again."
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Permalink Reply by Chris Witherspoon on -
Those on this site that I really admire and pay attention to when they post are the least contentious and in my opinion the most professional. They are also the people who bow out of a discussion when things turn contentious.
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Permalink Reply by Nathan Welch on -
This has come up as a thread a few times in the past, and people even put forward thoughts, views and ideas on etiquette etc!!! I personally take a leaf out of Abraham Lincoln's book I write one reply full of my anger, sadness, disbelief, shock or whatever emotion I have given myself from my interpretation of what I think was meant.
But i never send it or post it up, I print it off and attach it to my fridge for sometimes and hour or so and sometimes a few days re-reading it and chuckling at my own stupidity. I then reply with a second much more positive, balanced and respectful post.
I respect that people see the world in different ways and that I can learn not only from their posts but also from how they make me feel and how I respond to those feelings, its not always easy but then often the best lesson are not at least for me any way.
Smiles Nath (probably the worlds most laid back Brit)!!!! tongue firmly in cheek :-))
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Permalink Reply by Fable Goodman on -
He he he,
Nath, You certainly come across as laid back.
I could borrow a leaf from your book.
The road to hell is paved with good intentions...
I usually start off planning to be loving and accepting, and non confrontational ect.
but it is so easy to get hooked into something, and respond with what at the time
seems like a useful contribution but shortly afterwards becomes obvious as an ego leak.
If I have time, I usually go back and edit posts in the fifteen minute window.
but in all honesty, by the time I have corrected all the spelling, typos, and grammatical errors.
my fifteen minutes is up, and I have left in the bit which the next day, I realise needed editing out.
Ah well, I am still a work in progress.
Love and hugs,
Lawrie
P.S. (ninja edit) I really appreciate the friends on here, including of course the moderators,
who are thoughtful and caring enough to send me a private message saying things like
"lawrie... are you sure that is what you really wanted to say?" ...
"Did you realise that it could be taken this way?..." etc.
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Permalink Reply by Celeste Hackett, CH on
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I think, for me it's kind of like my sadhana or "spiritual practice" to just put down the rock thrown at me instead of throwing it back. Or to put down the rock and pick up a flower and toss that back with a warm smile. We as mean ole posting people really are just loveable ole teddy bears deep down inside anyhow.
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Permalink Reply by Brochu on -
Eric:
I believe that when someone cannot speak to the issue at times out of frustration the dialogue can get personal.
My process is similar to Nate’s.
I will write a reply walk away from it for a few hours and then decide if that was really what I wanted to say and if I have made my point too sharply. There is usually a re-write to fine-tune my stated position and finally a spell check to insure that my thoughts have a clean professional presentation.
At times after reading a particular post I have asked myself out loud “Have they gone off their Meds?” Some members will craft their questions, while others are just posting so that they can reply and keep saying, “Look at Me”.
I believe that the “safe place” is wonderful but under used by members and the” wild west” is a useful place to lay our cards on the table and be more blunt with our opinions.
Eric, I think that Hypnothoughts is unique in the fact that we as Hypnotists/Hypnotherapists are exchanging ideas and opinions.
Sometimes our non-judgmental loving regard fails to engage.
Yours in Health,
John Brochu
BrochuHypnosisCenter.com
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Permalink Reply by Donna Carter on -
I believe it all tells a story. Everything thing we say....tell's on us.
I like all the posts....the good, bad, and the ugly - and then the moderators kind moderations!
I like the combination of personal and professional - it's one of the reasons I post and/or lurk...depending on the year. I like the professional....well, because of obvious reasons... there will always be so much to learn!
I like the personal because...after a few hundred posts, a person starts to show particular habits (knowledge, drama, wit, humor, wisdom, lack of self-awareness and/or it's brother self-awareness, emotional, etc. etc.) that either attract the interest of others who like those things or inspires avoidance of those people who...don't like those things.
It's all part of the fun!
Behavior...it all it's weird and wackiness...
D.
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