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Permalink Reply by James Malone on February 28, 2011 at 8:12am

Fiona, is this family member fussy and skeptical in general or just regarding hypnosis? If the latter, it could be that she equates hypnosis with a loss of control-which would be compounded by the fact you are a family member.  Is there a colleague that could work with her instead perhaps?

Is her skepticism extending towards her doctors too? I've noticed that skeptical types are often very uncomfortable with the whole notion that a subconscious block could be causing the problem and will insist the docs must have missed the actual physical cause because it otherwise threatens the self-perception of always being completely rational and logical. 

If you do work with her, go slow. I would consider starting mind/body relaxation exercises not directly related to her musical performance and build from there. Once she buys into the idea the mind has a lot of influence over the body, it would be fairly easy to segue into the musical aspect. Good Luck! Jim

 

 

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Permalink Reply by Kathleen Hanover on February 28, 2011 at 10:13am

Or, it could be that part of her doesn't want to go to America to record an album, and the best way to avoid that is to be physically unable to do so. (In other words...could there be secondary gain involved.)

 

Just sayin'.

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Permalink Reply by Kelley Woods on February 28, 2011 at 11:29am

If this person is skeptical about hypnosis, it's very easy to enlighten her that when she is deeply engaged with her music, she is in a form of trance! Many people are passionate about music because of its wonderful ability to appeal to our emotional and creative mind. The fact that she can achieve those particular notes when she concentrates very hard also supports the idea of the power of her mind...

 

People who are "fussy" are often frustrated when things don't go just right. That frustration leads to emotional and physical tension, which interferes with many functions and leads to an even higher degree of "fussiness". Use a simple tool to let her release these feelings and address her music with a clear frame of body and mind. (Michael Ellner's Emotional Detox Technique comes to mind...)

 

I also suggest you sit next to her as she plays and lead her to concentrate very hard and play those notes. At that point of being able to play the notes, anchor her success to a thought, a word, a symbol. Show her how she can bring up that image or word and achieve that degree of success again.

 

As for her voice ability, the voice is a muscle that needs to be exercised. Like other muscles that receive trauma through injury or operation, it may have a limited range of motion during recovery. Help her chart her progress and make a plan for improvement...baby steps can achieve great leaps over time. I would use some metaphor for this growth.

 

You might notice that each of my suggestions involves no formal hypnosis. This may be the best approach with a family member who is very fussy and skeptical!

 

Best wishes,

 

Kelley

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Permalink Reply by fiona linnane on March 22, 2011 at 3:54am

Thanks fo feedback

Kelley Woods said:

If this person is skeptical about hypnosis, it's very easy to enlighten her that when she is deeply engaged with her music, she is in a form of trance! Many people are passionate about music because of its wonderful ability to appeal to our emotional and creative mind. The fact that she can achieve those particular notes when she concentrates very hard also supports the idea of the power of her mind...

 

People who are "fussy" are often frustrated when things don't go just right. That frustration leads to emotional and physical tension, which interferes with many functions and leads to an even higher degree of "fussiness". Use a simple tool to let her release these feelings and address her music with a clear frame of body and mind. (Michael Ellner's Emotional Detox Technique comes to mind...)

 

I also suggest you sit next to her as she plays and lead her to concentrate very hard and play those notes. At that point of being able to play the notes, anchor her success to a thought, a word, a symbol. Show her how she can bring up that image or word and achieve that degree of success again.

 

As for her voice ability, the voice is a muscle that needs to be exercised. Like other muscles that receive trauma through injury or operation, it may have a limited range of motion during recovery. Help her chart her progress and make a plan for improvement...baby steps can achieve great leaps over time. I would use some metaphor for this growth.

 

You might notice that each of my suggestions involves no formal hypnosis. This may be the best approach with a family member who is very fussy and skeptical!

 

Best wishes,

 

Kelley

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