Strategies for stress management...

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Permalink Reply by Fable Goodman on November 28, 2008 at 8:56am

If the breif is for 10 to 15 minutes speaking ... I would suggest that, being aware of your tendency to be long winded, you aim for a 10 minute talk, then if you go over by a couple of minutes you are still within your contract.

Going over the 15 would demonstrate a lack of boundaries.

That's my only nugget at the moment.

Love and hugs,

Fable

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Permalink Reply by Henxy on November 28, 2008 at 9:13am

What is meant by interdisciplinary? Who/what are the other disciplines? Is that important, or irrelevant to your own presentation?

If the audience/panel does not already know what hypnosis can do, you'll probably need to provide some form of definition- what hypnosis is, and is not...and how it can help people cope with stress...What is required...Perhaps a rapid induction on a willing participant- and get them to speak for you would be a good use of your allocated time.

Do not go over your time. It is a classic mistake- shows others a lack of respect, suggests that you are poor at time management (and what else?). Some people will cut you off- even mid-sentence- if you go over your time, and you may have a fabulous point to make, that will be lost.

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Permalink Reply by Donna Carter on November 28, 2008 at 11:05am

Thanks Fable...
Yes, boundaries...
That is a good nugget.

Not once...did I think of that perspective. I have been so
consumed with 'maybe I could squeeze this in'.

I'm so glad I posted this question now.

Thank you!
~~D.

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Permalink Reply by Donna Carter on November 28, 2008 at 11:15am

I only (in passing) know two people on the panel - one is a holistic doctor (really into vitamins) and he also does
accupuncture. (I am sure he probably does more, I just don't know what it is, yet)
And the other one is a massage therapist - I believe.

The chamber was supposed to get back to me with the list of people who will be there, but they have not yet
done it. The panel discussion is not until January.

I can safely say...no one around here uses hypnosis. I have been somewhat of a curiosity since letting my
presence known to the community. It has been fun and interesting.

interdisciplinary - I believe means...the ability to use more than one method to help with a problem. Showing different diciplines/ showing different methods. I am going to guess it is irrelevant (who these other people are) to my own presentation...since, it is to be my own perspective on how to manage stress. Although...I will be hounding the chamber to get me those names. I like to know everything I can - so I can more easily create rapport with these other individuals.

I don't want my point to be lost! I'll be sure not to go over my time ~biting nails~ grin.
Thank you so much for your suggestions.

~~D.

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Permalink Reply by Michael Ellner on November 28, 2008 at 12:02pm

--D, Fable, Henxy, et al,

Henxy - Interdisciplinary panels of this sort often include experts in yoga, Tai Chi and other relaxation based approaches- Should be lots of fun-

D- I agree with Fable -- Respecting boundaries is good manners-

The great news is that ten to fifteen minutes is exactly enough time to wow every one in the room and give them a reason to believe that you can help them get more out of life and have some fun --

-- Remember part of the problem is the "seriousity" that we attach to our issues -- This is sooooo much fun....Wheeeee!

Part One -- You are an expert in helping people De-stress!

The secret to taking charge of the "stressors" in our lives and health is becoming aware of how stressful our reactions to them can can be...

D- Note-
A) I suggest making a point to agree with the gist of the above statement -- if any of the speakers before you mention it
B) If No one has made the above point before your segment-- you want to be the first to point it out--

The secret to taking charge of the "stressors" in our lives and health is becoming aware of how stressful our reactions to them can can be... When it comes to stress - the stressors in our lives don't cause our problems in and of themselves --- it is our reaction to the stressors that cause problems-- You help yours clients learn how to move out of stressed states and into rest and digest states -- Blah, blah, blah- You have just danced through the 1st part of your presentation...

Part Two - You are an expert in the theory and practice of hypnosis
Note_ You are a very special hypnosis practitioner and you can help the good people in your audience feel better, heal faster and generally be more effective -- (Because, I say so!)

You could dazzle em with some thing like:
People wonder if they are good candidates for hypnosis - "Let's find out.... Every one imagine a lemon, great -- now imagine slicing it - wonderful - now imagine putting a slice into your mouth -- Auuggggghhh.. How many of you tasted the lemon and how many of you produced digestive juices (saliva) -- In the exact same way a hypnotist can teach you how to use you mind and brain to react to life in healthier and more effective ways-- ((((You have just opened the door for it to be reasonable to believe that people who feel better, heal faster and are generally more effective and that you help your clients condition themselves to automatically begin to de-stress when they send their minds and brains a signal to do so.... and life is Better when you can do that -- you know...

Any questions-

Enjoy the applause -- Great Job!

Ta da....

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Permalink Reply by Samuel Lurie on November 29, 2008 at 8:19am

You can do a lot in 15 minutes. I would encourage you to include a group participation demo, towards the end--choose a breathing or visualization exercise you like, and have people DO something which, at the end of the 1-3 minutes, they will FEEL more stress-free and relaxed. People always remember more of what they experience than what they hear. Be sure to have a moment at the end for a few people provide a little feedback on the experience, to process the exercise. Hope this is helpful. Enjoy you talk!

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Permalink Reply by Donna Carter on November 30, 2008 at 8:51am

I love reading your comments, but most especially...when it helps me!
~grin~ it's all about me, ya know? ~grin~

Thanks for this nugget of information - I will take it and run!

You have truly shaped how I plan to move forward.

Thanks so much for the picture...of me, with your ideas, doing well.

....you're the best!

~~D

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Permalink Reply by Donna Carter on November 30, 2008 at 8:57am

Yes, this is helpful...

I'm not looking forward to 15 minutes - but, you are correct...I can do a lot in that time.
It will be fun to de-stress them and leave them thinking of me.
I almost feel bad for the rest of the panel - I have no idea how they plan on out shining me.
~~I am laughing, and totally mean it~~
Now I am starting to think: You don't think I would burn bridges with this 'panel' if I was too good...do you? Is that too full of myself? ~still laughing and still serious~
I have no idea how they are going to compete with this.
I believe it in (which shows in my passion when I talk to people)
I CAN make them feel it (which will have my name on their lips)
ya...
I'm feeling a bit bad for them now. I hope they surprise me with something good.

How lucky am I to have this community at my fingertips - to bounce around my wayward thoughts?

Thanks so much!!!

~~D.

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Permalink Reply by Fable Goodman on November 30, 2008 at 10:46am

Hello again Donna,

Thanks for the kind words, regarding my earlier comment.

I notice that earlier in the discussion you said " I like to know everything I can - so I can more easily create rapport with these other individuals."

But in your last post, you seem to be talking about competing with them. (half joking and half serious).
I would thoroughly reccomend that you stick to building rapport, rather than allowing yourself to be seen as competing with them.

Keep the confidence, and drop the ego a bit perhaps.

(Fable makes mental note to take some of his own medicine!)

Love and hugs,

Fable

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Permalink Reply by Donna Carter on November 30, 2008 at 12:21pm

LOL Fabel,

Well you see...
I totally want to create rapport. It is a small town and it would behoove me to create long lasting relationships with these people.

So - that is totally serious.

Also, these people are my direct competition. They are.
I am more than happy to work with them, refer to them, etc. etc.
However, I can't duck the fact that if a client is giving them money - they will be less likely be giving their money to me - and vica-versa. Right?

Knowing what I know about two of the people who will be on the panel
I am worried I will outshine them and although I joke about it (on one hand)
I am worried about it (in the other).

Maybe it is ego...
but what if it is not?
What if it is superior content?
What if it is hours of practicing, knowing how to say things so that they remember the first 2 minutes and the last 2 minutes.
what if I am confident that I will leave them wanting to find out more about hypnosis?

IF (and let us put ego and confidence asside for a minute) hypothetically, I do make an impact... how will that change my relationships with these other people?
They don't seem to be the most welcoming bunch I have ever met - and maybe knowing that - is floating around my head like a knat? Annoying and constantly showing up.

What to do?
How to build rapport and shine at the same time...that is the question.

~~D.

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Permalink Reply by Katherine Zimmerman on December 1, 2008 at 8:33am

I think 15 minutes is perfect. You can give them enough information to peak their interest and leave them wanting to know more... so they will call you! One of the things that I say esp. when I don't have much time is this: With hypnosis you can change your mind and keep the change! (the title of an NLP book) It's true and they remember it.

I don't worry much about competition. The people I can help best are drawn to me and my information and those who can be helped best by other methods will be drawn in that direction. There is certainly enough work for everyone.

Katherine Zimmerman
www.trancetime.com

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Permalink Reply by Donna Carter on December 1, 2008 at 3:48pm

Thank you for your comments. I love that: With hypnosis you can change your mind and keep the change! Very catchy. That's the best...

I really have been spending way too much time thinking about 'how THEY might react to me as competition'.
I may not have articulated my words correctly earlier, but I too, agree that there is enough pie for everyone...
I was concerned with THEIR (my perception of their) reactions to me as competition and not so much my reactions to them as competition.

My perception may be tainted because of the person organizing this panel (one of the persons who happens to also be on the panel), never returns my emails and never returns my calls. I have pretty much drilled for any tidbit of information I did get - and the fact that I am on the panel at all is due to my persistence and not because they have put out their welcoming hand. Can I blame it on their bad organizational skills? ~~LOL
It isn't personal, this person doesn't know me and the people I do know in this town are good contacts and would fly over the moon to give me a good recommendation.
I just don't get it.
Which leaves me to speculate (never a good night time buddy)...

Thank you Katherine for your time.
I have been pondering going to the pain management weekend with Melissa Roth in January - I look forward to meeting her and I look forward to meeting you at some point as well. I was just recently turned on to your offered classes. I love classes!

Donna.

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