Working with Mental Illness

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Permalink Reply by Scott Cooper on December 20, 2009 at 7:18am

Thanks Very Much Micheal,

I will stay with their goals,, I appreciate the wake up call, I can see, by reading this thread I was jumping the gun. I have a very good rapport with the husband and will be working with him after the holiday.

Funny you mentioned the heart shocker.. I do have an update there.. What a small world we live in. My oldest son made a travel baseball team. We were at the Clarkston Parade about to be in the parade,, and who shows up in the organizations uniform,, there he was,, he gave me a hug when he saw me,, and we walked the parade together, givinng out candy,,

Yes,, that was a great success,, and you did direct me to stay with his goals, his wishes,, his mom was so grateful and was pleasantly surprised that when they did a bathroom make over,, (he was shocked in the shower and related the shower area as to what set it off) and now he showers and is in and out of that room like nothing ever happened!! So nice to hear a parent saw great change in their son,, and he's doing terrific in school,, alot more important that how you can throw, hit and catch a baseball.

Thanks for all of the great replys,,

Hope everyone is enjoying the weekend,

Scott


Michael Ellner said:

Hey Scott-

This is what I am talking about:

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Permalink Reply by Scott Cooper on December 20, 2009 at 7:23am

Hi Henxy,

I'll update as we proceed,, with an open mind,, focused on his goals,,,

Hope you have a great day

Scott

Henxy said:

Scott-
What's the update?
Enquiring minds wanna know!

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Permalink Reply by Eric G. Schneider on December 20, 2009 at 6:19pm

Wow, so this guy has been feeding his wife's self habit for 25 years....I wonder why he chose to stay with her and since he has tried so many things, what he things is really going to change?

Scott, I am a little confused, which person are you referring to? The gentleman who came to see you or his wife? I am in agreement with much that has been said here...I wonder what investment they both have in staying stuck..after all, he has been just as "stuck" as she..

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Permalink Reply by Henxy on December 21, 2009 at 4:41am

Eric G. Schneider said:

Wow, so this guy has been feeding his wife's self habit for 25 years....I wonder why he chose to stay with her and since he has tried so many things, what he things is really going to change?

Scott, I am a little confused, which person are you referring to? The gentleman who came to see you or his wife? I am in agreement with much that has been said here...I wonder what investment they both have in staying stuck..after all, he has been just as "stuck" as she..

Some people need to justify to themselves why they feel so bad; and need to keep the status quo (victim mentality). Others need to be needed... Need to have some sort of battle to fight.

Sometimes, that's comfy.

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Permalink Reply by Donna Carter on December 31, 2009 at 5:11pm

Sometimes I believe relationships resemble the line at Disney Park ride.
You get in line...and it wraps around, you think your making progress (Disney is EXCELLENT at making you feel like you are making progress) and at the last minute you realize the line switches back and you aren't as close as you thought you were to getting to where you want to be. However, you have now stood in line for a good 10 minutes, the reward is in site (if only in your imagination)...so you hang on and wait some more. ONLY to realize...DANG! there's another switch back.
However, now you have stood in line for 30 minutes... you are more invested than EVER, it would be silly to turn back now... how much longer do you have to wait before you get exactly what you have wanted, needed, and wished for?

Investment....

hmm...

~D.

Eric G. Schneider said:

for 25 years....I wonder why he chose to stay with her and since he has tried so many things, what he things is really going to change?

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