Help please, need some advice..

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Permalink Reply by Pete & Lorraine on August 9, 2010 at 5:30am

One way is to get her to put it upon a TV/Movie screen so that she remains detatched. Sometimes when you get an abreaction peole need to cry it out as they are letting go of an emotion that has been there for a long time, What peole say consciously and what come up can be very different. Some peole dont even remember a trauma consciously. However it sounds like she is ready to let it go now, I would deal with the trauma detaching the emotion from the memory, maybe some inner child work, and Gestalt is great for saying what needed saying all that time ago, but in a safe way, Put your client in a safe place to say what she needs to say ie I put them in a circle of light and the person and/or situation in a separate circle. When all is said cut the ties to that situation, check with the client how she feels when she thinks of the situation. check if there is anyhting else to look at to let the weight go.
I hope this helps

Pete

Permalink Reply by Jacqui Cooper on August 9, 2010 at 9:02am

Thank you so much. I had a brilliant session with her, 2 hours in the end but it was worth it to see the difference afterwards- I love this job :)


Peter Bateman & Lorraine Gleeson said:

One way is to get her to put it upon a TV/Movie screen so that she remains detatched. Sometimes when you get an abreaction peole need to cry it out as they are letting go of an emotion that has been there for a long time, What peole say consciously and what come up can be very different. Some peole dont even remember a trauma consciously. However it sounds like she is ready to let it go now, I would deal with the trauma detaching the emotion from the memory, maybe some inner child work, and Gestalt is great for saying what needed saying all that time ago, but in a safe way, Put your client in a safe place to say what she needs to say ie I put them in a circle of light and the person and/or situation in a separate circle. When all is said cut the ties to that situation, check with the client how she feels when she thinks of the situation. check if there is anyhting else to look at to let the weight go.
I hope this helps

Pete

Permalink Reply by Pete & Lorraine on August 9, 2010 at 11:44am

So do I :-)

Jacqui Cooper said:

Thank you so much. I had a brilliant session with her, 2 hours in the end but it was worth it to see the difference afterwards- I love this job :)


Peter Bateman & Lorraine Gleeson said:

One way is to get her to put it upon a TV/Movie screen so that she remains detatched. Sometimes when you get an abreaction peole need to cry it out as they are letting go of an emotion that has been there for a long time, What peole say consciously and what come up can be very different. Some peole dont even remember a trauma consciously. However it sounds like she is ready to let it go now, I would deal with the trauma detaching the emotion from the memory, maybe some inner child work, and Gestalt is great for saying what needed saying all that time ago, but in a safe way, Put your client in a safe place to say what she needs to say ie I put them in a circle of light and the person and/or situation in a separate circle. When all is said cut the ties to that situation, check with the client how she feels when she thinks of the situation. check if there is anyhting else to look at to let the weight go.
I hope this helps

Pete

Permalink Reply by Colin O'Shaughnessy on August 9, 2010 at 1:48pm

During the abreaction, you could tell her that the scene is fading and to tend to or concentrate on her breathing (You will have to tell her about 3 or 4 times) until she calms down. I learned that from a video by Sean Micheal Andrews, where he showe a video of himself with a client having an abreaction. Then brung her out of hypnosis, and do not touch her during the entire event, you don't want to create an anchor.

Permalink Reply by Rachel W Raucher on July 30, 2011 at 1:24pm

I know this is an older thread... but I really appreciate being able to benefit from the wisdom and experience others post in this forum and am so grateful for the multitude of mistakes I will hopefully be avoiding through everyone's generous sharing. 

Colin, your observation is briliant in its simplicity!  Thank you!

Colin O'Shaughnessy said:

During the abreaction,  do not touch her during the entire event, you don't want to create an anchor.

Permalink Reply by Rachel W Raucher on July 30, 2011 at 1:26pm

Another pearl of wisdom from this discussion in particular and from this forum.  I appreciate both of these suggested means of distancing... Thank you Peter!

Peter Bateman & Lorraine Gleeson said:

One way is to get her to put it upon a TV/Movie screen so that she remains detatched. ...Put your client in a safe place to say what she needs to say ie I put them in a circle of light and the person and/or situation in a separate circle. When all is said cut the ties to that situation, check with the client how she feels when she thinks of the situation. check if there is anyhting else to look at to let the weight go.
I hope this helps

Pete