To all teenagers who are or once were.....

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Permalink Reply by Bob Brown, CHt, CNLP on December 22, 2008 at 11:15am

is this difficulties or opportunities? You have fresh eyes.. high energy... different social network... Even to be sterotyped can be a blessing because you surprise the hell out of everyone when you achieve what you were not supposed to achieve.

You just don't strike me as someone who would speak on roadblocks...

bob

Permalink Reply by Amanda Irvine on December 22, 2008 at 11:26am

Hey Bob, I totally get where you are coming from, and even I as a young adult of some of the sociatal strains, placed on me... My speech is a way to inspire an older audiance to stop and think about but the expectations we place on our young people... I know the question is fairly broad, but it's a more personal question... IN life there is kinda like a preset curssor as to when your done highschool, you either got to college or get a job! Time and age has placed many restraints, and barriors unitentionally on our young people.. NOw don 't get me wrong I am all for encouraging the youth to get involved, but some of the ways we have planned courses for to get there aren't always for everyone.. I am 21 and I felt a lot of pressure after highschool, to go straight into university... I was there 2 weeks when I droped out... Formal education is not my style...

By Sociatal I am not pointing at people, but more at self.. As it is only our own precognition of these ideals, that we ourselves force upon ourselves... Thus in a way it's a sort of excersise to see just how, we can limit ourselves with self limiting beliefs....
Thanks for your comment Bob it was much appriciated and hopefully this provides more explination...
Cheers!~
Amanda

Permalink Reply by Bob Brown, CHt, CNLP on December 22, 2008 at 11:32am

In my real world (motivational speaker) I speak to hundreds of kids each month (mainly College/University but some senior High School). Here's the success formula I share with them... "I was too stupid to realize I was supposed to listen to others"

bob

Permalink Reply by Amanda Irvine on December 22, 2008 at 11:51am

We live only our own lives but in this world we are all living together... Someone has been there and done that.. Listiening is a very important thing, Like once quoted, by I am not sure who, Life too short to make all the mistakes on your own, so learn from the mistakes of others! And quoting another brilliant quote..." Shared Experiences can truly help a struggling soul!" ~ A.M. Irvine

Cheers Bob
Hope your holidays are blissful
Amanda

Permalink Reply by Richard Rumble on December 22, 2008 at 2:33pm

OK Amanda..

This is the perfect opportunity to let your unconscious mind now... prove to yourself how much you have listened to others and learned from the shared mistakes and sharing experiences....

Start the speech as a look into the the difficulties and problems of teens today... and then do a massive REFRAME to show how the skills you are learning like NLP, HYPNOSIS and Conversational Persuasion are changing the problems into assets.. or at least great life learning experiences... because there is really no failure.. only feedback.

You are the woman in control of what she thinks and how she feels... How does AMANDA deal with a society that wants a shape out of her that she is unwilling to form to? The hardest part of being a TEEN is not knowing what you don't know. If I could go back to being a TEEN today.. KNOWING the things I know about life NOW... I guarantee it would be a whole different experience.

In Show biz we say.. Break a Leg.... and have a happy holiday season.

Richard

Permalink Reply by David Newman, D.Sc., C. Ht. on January 1, 2009 at 11:38am

If one takes the time to perform analysis between the generations there really aren't that many differences. Yes technology has advanced, and young people today as a group do not use their imagination as much as people from my generation (born in the 50's); however, if we had the technology then as we do now, we would many of the same things as the young adults do now.

As an educator I do see some major differences at least here in the United States.

1. Young adults today expect to be given things (salaries, jobs, promotions, etc.) because "I deserve it." Not because they have earned it.
2. Young adults expect immediate gratification.
3. Young adults have a tendency not to work out differences (such as issues at work) and would rather leave a position and go out and find another one. This is both good and bad. From the employers point of view it is bad because the employee turnover is so high. On the other hand from the employee's point of view it is good because they have the confidence to face the unknown.

I hope this helps. These are my observations.

Permalink Reply by Amanda Irvine on January 1, 2009 at 11:25pm

I agree to some extents David, while generations have changed in someways they have also changed, in others...Back in the times before technology was even a household thing, people did what they did to survive, they new they had to work, and before technology the work was harder... I may be speaking for myself, but I think I am not alone when I say that I feel our generation is a little lost because of all the technology.... when you where a kid, the amounts of careers, you had to choose from, was finite, compared to the opportunities that we have now... Now don't get me wrong as sociaty grows so do people!, But heading into college, you probably had a pretty good grasp on what you wanted to be! Depends on your imagination....! As a youth today, in this fast pased world, there is this rush rush sence of heading into college right after highschool... and alot of our youth are getting left behind! I know myself a pretty good student, felt I needed to head straight into university, the fall after graduation! During an instable time in my life, and my falling depression at the time, I wasn't even there two weeks, before my doctor told me I had to pull out! Too Much stress, then started the disociative disorder! ~~~ It's been 3 years since I was last in school.... Haven't been doing much... Can't work, least not a conventional job! I can remember when I was a kid, ever week or so, what I wanted to be, changed! I can remember wanting to be a teacher! I wanted to a forensic Scientist long before CSI, but then CSI came out and that satisfied that need, I wanted to be a psychologist a hypnotist, a hypnotherapist, I wanted to do experimental Psychiatry..... Then I became a business owner! First I was going to build a t.v. then I was going to be a liason firm, then I was going to go into agenting, just yesterday I wanted to be a politican, and philosopher! my point is, that we feel this stress, and pressure to jump into some sort of education, and if not that a job, to support yourself! WHat ever happend to travelling the world, or trying something different... we aren't given enough time to feel and really fall in love with what we become, before we have to decide, what that thing is! In your generation you did things because that's the way it was and that 's the way it always would be.... My generation, is starting to realize that this is not the way it has to be...... and we aren't doing this because we have too, or atleast we should never have to'; but rather we are doing it because we know that we have to! That we have to step up and take charge of us!

As far as as being given things because they deserve it, rather than having earned it is this;
sometimes there are certian special circumstances given to people! Usually these are people of Power... There isn't anything money can't buy mentality..... But what do we do for those people who are just like you and me who don't have money but other talents, instead! we must also take into account circumstances, SAT scores can determine your ablity among a pool of many wheather your going to get a free ride or not... And this is not a pitty party, but when I did my SATs or the Canadian equivilant, I was in the hospital 1/3 of the year! I was not stable PTSD, plus all the other pressures of life, that there is to be cool, to have a bf, gf, or maybe your gay... Deal with that at a young age, this is our reality! There are lots of people who get lost within the system, perhaps some of the most brilliant mind ever to change the world, lost... All I am stating is that as the generations, change, so must the methods, that help us to succeed... I remember when I was 8 they just started having special ed, classes for the slower students, I felt proud because this was at MY SCHOOL, then when I was in Gr. 11 We got the ESL program (English Second Language) It was great we have created programs for people who may need some extra help! We have also done this in the finacial world too! at least in canada if you can't work there is assistance... we have provided these fail safe, programs, to help our sociaty succeed, only poorly spent money and bad delegations of fund, have left us with more people on the streets than ever before..... My satrish response to that is, well at least if everyone is going to be living on the streets in the next 20 years, then well maybe then we'll try to come up with a solution for living on the streets, maybe we dygress into apes again??? Just an idea!~~~

There are more and more teens than ever getting lost behind! As our issues change, and as we start to grow up faster, in a go go go go go world!!! the solutions that are available for us are insufficiant.... Insufficiant funds! So we are growing up with this more global urgency of having to take responsibilty for our futureS!

~Patients is a Virtue\


To #3` Your right there is a lot more job hoppin these days, and you know why that is it's not the youth, it's being put in positions, that a full time employee has to endure, plus being a full time student and full time teen, who has to figure out in the next year or two, what he/she wants to be for the rest of your life.... Job hoppin happens all the time but in my wallet it's alot better smarter and easier for me to job hop than try to carreer shop! Educations don't come cheap these days, and you must admitt, this.... If there more career institues that would be willing to take those youth in, the chances of them doing, knowing and feeling what they want to do the less job hoppin there would be....! There are still two types of work forces in the world, the labours'blue colar the people that run our world, with the everyday stuff, they are the ones that keep us going! Then there is the career the collar ties, they are the ones, who develope the world and make sure that it keeps going round" They are you and me, hypnotists, people that work together for a common good for the betterment of sociaty.... I don't know if you are familiar, with John Kappas' and HMI, but they have the two types of suggestablity, emotional or physical? Labours would be your physical, and Carrer suits, and such would be your emotional... We all have different needs, and we need to start relizing that on an induvidual level... We accept differnt cultures, and races, and religion, we know differnet languages and different ways, why can't we just except Different and realize that no one person is going to have the exact same needs... We need to help meet those needs, so if I jump from minuim wage, to selling burgers... And then maybe I Go Pump Gas! I celebrate this! I rejouce! People are finally finding what they want like love and feel, they are wanting and pulling that towards. themselves.... ! Instead of living a stressed out life, in the same dead end cubical for 6 years! My generation is finally finding what makes them happy instead!! And as a youth we are thrown all these blue colar jobs, big companies aren't hiring, youth, in highschool, something about them not being mature enough and oh yes let me see, the rest of the world except the one that keeps us spinning round stops! that's all we know and have the opportunity to experience before we Dig out our pocket book to pay for our career! If turnout is high, then treat the employee fair, give them what you can to make them WANT to stay!




Thanks alot David I hope you don't see this response as an attack!~ I merely saw your statement as the start of my speech, That's just a sneek peek, so thank you much for your observations, and I wish you all the best In 09
Cheers! Amanda