Self-esteem scripts an suggestions?

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Permalink Reply by Kelley Woods on January 18, 2012 at 10:00am

Yes, Beth...while I like to use focusing on the breath for clients to turn inward as an initial induction, I find that deepening that with an experience that sets the stage for discovering treasures (positive qualities and traits) is wonderful. You can include some suggestions for letting of emotional and physical difficulties at some level, at some place, with imagery or sensation and then guide the listener to a place of discovery. This is a place of trance-formation, a place where they can find all of those innate and self-empowering truths about themselves, that are and always have been within them.

BTW, I agree that self-esteem is not based on what you have or even look like (sorry, Fashion Industry, to pop your bubble!) but more about what you accomplish and allow yourself to experience and feel. That's why the recent decades of parents trying to boost their kids' self esteem through compliments and encouragement alone have failed so terribly. It's the individual's efforts and accomplishments that build the core of self esteem. With this in mind, I always use past success to help create belief of current and future success to restore and replenish feelings of self empowerment, not only with a client, but with myself!

Permalink Reply by Kevin J. O'Kane on January 18, 2012 at 5:14pm

Beth,

I'd be interested in your e-book when it's published.

Kevin

Permalink Reply by Tom Grethen on January 18, 2012 at 6:35pm

Hi Beth,

I like that approach. I don't have a script handy, but a couple of things do come to mind:

first of all the Buddhist way of looking at life... the idea that 'being' as such is way more important than 'being' anything in  particular, which is really just a 'rpojecting to the world' thing... being simply human and true to oneself vs being a lawyer or a person with a yacht or whatever or a popstar or someone who is recognised or whatever... to live for oneself... to be in the world and not of it... not being bothered with worldly achievements, social  status etc.

secondly, Albert Ellis, who spoke of the 'sickness of self-esteem', as a concept. there's some youtube video where he contrasts it with self-acceptance, which is, unlike self-esteem, unconditional (not bound by any action or achievement).

separating oneself from one's position / status / behaviour / etc sms to be the key to self-acceptance. Which isn't to say that one won't strive to be a better person... it's not a free-for-all for irresponsible behaviour, but more a way to stay self-accepting no matter what... that way learning can take place... much better than having low self-esteem or low self-acceptance and feel guilt and thus find oneself ding more of that which put one there in the first place...

Permalink Reply by Beth Burgess on January 21, 2012 at 8:53am

Thanks for all your great suggestions :) Kevin i'll let you know when the book's finished. I've done the final draft but need to create the hypnosis track etc before I finalise it.

Permalink Reply by Beth Burgess on January 21, 2012 at 8:56am

Oh and Tom, my definition of self-esteem sounds very much like Albert's of self-acceptance. But then that's probably because I am catering for a field with incredibly low self-esteem and I think this would help them more to position it as self-esteem.

Tom Grethen said:

Hi Beth,

I like that approach. I don't have a script handy, but a couple of things do come to mind:

first of all the Buddhist way of looking at life... the idea that 'being' as such is way more important than 'being' anything in  particular, which is really just a 'rpojecting to the world' thing... being simply human and true to oneself vs being a lawyer or a person with a yacht or whatever or a popstar or someone who is recognised or whatever... to live for oneself... to be in the world and not of it... not being bothered with worldly achievements, social  status etc.

secondly, Albert Ellis, who spoke of the 'sickness of self-esteem', as a concept. there's some youtube video where he contrasts it with self-acceptance, which is, unlike self-esteem, unconditional (not bound by any action or achievement).

separating oneself from one's position / status / behaviour / etc sms to be the key to self-acceptance. Which isn't to say that one won't strive to be a better person... it's not a free-for-all for irresponsible behaviour, but more a way to stay self-accepting no matter what... that way learning can take place... much better than having low self-esteem or low self-acceptance and feel guilt and thus find oneself ding more of that which put one there in the first place...

Permalink Reply by Beth Burgess on February 18, 2012 at 8:14am

Hi all,

As there was some interest in my ebook etc, I will give you the link to where the book and the hypnosis track are stored if you send me a private message. It's a page for my subscribers only, so I don't want to publish it on the forum. And if I do give it to you, please don't share it with anyone else - unless they want to subscribe of course (which is free!) via my website.

Thanks,

Beth

Kevin J. O'Kane said:

Beth,

I'd be interested in your e-book when it's published.

Kevin

Permalink Reply by Sharon Dill on March 1, 2012 at 2:09am

Beth - I would also be interested ...

Sharon

Permalink Reply by Beth Burgess on March 1, 2012 at 2:34am

Hi Sharon - I have sent you a friend request. When you accept it I can send you the link via direct message :)

Permalink Reply by Linda E. Donalds on March 24, 2012 at 6:16am

Hi Beth,

I like to connect my clients back to an earlier memory they have of feeling completely lovable.  For some, it is when they were a newborn baby, for others they are toddlers.  When is not important, just that they feel lovable.  If they are having any trouble recalling an actual memory, then I simply have them think of themselves as a newborn, perhaps in the birthing room being held in loving arms.  First they see and feel themselves as this child, and then they also look at this child from their adult perspective, seeing the child as totally lovable and perfect.  I have them tell this child whatever s/he needs to know and believe in order to go through all the difficult experiences (particularly traumas) they are about to go through in their life so they still maintain knowing they are lovable.  They are reminded that they cannot change what happened, just how they feel about themselves as they went through it, with more love and compassion for themselves (and others too who were involved).  At the end, I have them give the child a big hug, bringing this child into their heart and becoming a part of them.  For after all, the child has truly always been part of them all along.

I learned this process originally as the "Informed Child" technique in Cal Banyan's 5-PATH training course.

I too would love a copy of your ebook and script when they are ready.  I will send you the private message as you requested!

Warm Regards, Linda