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Finding the Good in Goodbye
Finding the Good in Goodbye
I recently had a bereavement client who was struggling with the loss of a close relative. The client came in and informed me that they didn’t think I would be able to help as she needed answers only her dead relative could answer. Well as I’m not a psychic or a medium and have no ability to talk to the dead, I had to agree with her that due to my skill base or lack of it I wouldn’t be able to ask her dead relative.
So I asked her what questions she wanted answered, and she told me. I then sat back and asked her to tell me her story, which she did. I listened intently and occasionally asked a question of my own. Now the most fascinating thing was that within her story as she shared her narrative where all the answers to her questions.
With a little bit of help from me and a little bit of discussion we discovered all the answers where there hiding in plain sight only hidden by the fact that she had never told her story out loud and had never looked objectively at her story from the position of someone looking in.
To her amazement and if I’m honest to mine we answered all the questions and dealt with 3 years of unresolved pain in 50 minutes. She stood up and said “It feels like a giant weight has just been lifted of my shoulders, I’m so relieved” I love a good positive physical metaphor; I shall never cease to be amazed at the minds capacity for healing or my client’s ability to change.
An Irish Blessing
May the road rise to meet you
May the wind always be on your back
May the sun shine warm upon your face
And may the rains fall soft upon your fields
Walk in peace and contentment
Wherever on your road you may be
And till we meet again
May god hold you gently in the hollow of his hand.
With respect Nath
Comment
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Comment by Nathan Welch on August 14, 2011 at 2:05am -
Hi Katherine I have finished my run and shout, i regularly mix physical exercise with my mistakes so as you can imagine I'm a pretty good runner by now smiles Nath
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Comment by Brenda Joy Johnson on August 12, 2011 at 7:01pm -
Very nice indeed. It is important to be a good listener and this just reinforces that message.
Thanks Nath
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Comment by Nathan Welch on August 12, 2011 at 2:25am
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Sorry my bad Katherine huge apologies I shall run several times round the block shouting your name so I do not make that mistake again smiles Nath
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Comment by Nathan Welch on August 11, 2011 at 11:38pm
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Hi Kevin, Kathleen and Bill Thank you all for your kind words, it was as sessions go the perfect storm and had very little to do with me apart from my ears working to their maximum.
I value and respect your words and wisdom smiles Nath
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Comment by Kevin- www.NLPTrainingQuest.com on August 11, 2011 at 7:05pm -
Very well done, Nath...
I enjoyed reading that. You of course come from a therapist background and understand the power of listening- and sometimes hypnosis/nlp professionals try so hard to be "content free" that they miss out of the valuable opportunities of allowing our clients to do half- or more- of the work by simply being heard- and being given the space to hear themselves...
People sometimes think I'm crazy for enjoying it- but I love working with grief clients. There's just tremendous satisfaction in guiding them away from so much pain- and towards experiencing so much pleasure...
Stay Well,
-Kevin
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Comment by Bill Kennedy on August 10, 2011 at 2:55am -
So true. And sometimes just talking to someone who knows how to listen can make all the difference. How many people have nobody to unburden themselves to? Not someone to solve their problems, just someone to listen, because telling the story is in and of itself, can be healing.
Great story, Nathan.
PS I was going to make a pun about the hell in hello, but decided against it. Maybe I'll muse about what's fair in farewell instead . . .
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