Phobia fail?

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Comment by Bill Kennedy on February 10, 2012 at 8:06pm

I like stories with happy endings.  I guess I'm just an incurable romantic.  Still there is so much unintended poetry in every day speech, isn't there?

Thank you.

Comment by David R J Brown on February 10, 2012 at 2:02am

....Sometimes you'll come across a client with experience in NLP or Hypnosis and have "their way" of doing things

Actually this was someone who was naiive to hypnotic/NLP communication.

Just yesterday I was chatting with a chap who had "lost his mojo" following the removal of his lung. He didn't want to "do anything hypnotic" but when I asked where a journey to find his lost mojo would begin he launched into a wonderful  animated tale about a round the world trip (ie.revivication). Then he went off, unprompted, on a story about he had successfully managed a workforce through an episode of enforced redundancies. There were so many metaphoric equivalences with the loss of his lung; it was far more elegant than anything I could hope to have constructed.

Of course we [irony] weren't doing anything hypnotic [/irony]

Comment by Kevin Cole-NLPTrainingQuest.com on February 9, 2012 at 5:14pm

Very good point, John...

"How will you know when you've achieved your outcome and or, How will you know when you've received value from our work together" are very good questions to ask... It gives you something measurable to over deliver on...

And yes, David... Sometimes you'll come across a client with experience in NLP or Hypnosis and have "their way" of doing things. I always look at that as an opportunity to make my job much easier. Some may say it allows them to "control the session" by leading-- but so long as they know where they are going, I let them lead. I like things easy...

**I also like to ask them what, if anything they've tried in the past that didn't work- and be certain to do something different.

-Kevin


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Comment by Kelley Woods on February 7, 2012 at 10:50am

Don't NLP proponents say, "There is no fail..."?! Sounds like you are richer from the experience. :) Kelley

Comment by David R J Brown on February 7, 2012 at 6:52am

While your techniques are no doubt effective, the value of obtaining input from the client before hand to learn about what they consider to be effective for them is priceless.

Yup. At the time I was disappointed that I didn't get to run the "proper" fast phobia model, and thus gratify my ego as "the man who can". Perhaps the interaction we did have acted as a trigger for her unconscious mind to change, and perhaps it didn't.  But the client has had an appropriate result through her own intent so alls well that ends well. 

Following the recipes can be a useful thing to do, but attention in the moment certainly provides richer, subtler and more powerful resources.

Comment by John Cleesattel on February 7, 2012 at 6:36am

While your techniques are no doubt effective, the value of obtaining input from the client before hand to learn about what they consider to be effective for them is priceless.

John