The Packing Roller Coaster

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Comment by Melissa J. Roth on February 1, 2011 at 11:38pm

Yes, Susan, I will be seeing clients in Colorado.  I am a hypnotherapist.  I never feel as good as when I am working.  Well, that's not true. I feel pretty good when I'm playing too.  But, doing hypnotherapy is part of who I am. It isn't a job.  It is like breathing.  I am not ready to sit on the porch in a rocker and doubt I ever will be.  I plan to sponsor some continuing ed workshops in Colorado--not just my own but other people as well.  It is far easier for people to get there for a workshop than to Alabama.  And, I plan to write.  There is another book or two that need to be written.  So, I think I will keep busy.  But, this time I am scheduling play time in my life also.  I plan to ski again and ride my horse through the woods a lot.  My new house borders Eldorado State Park so I can ride for days without seeing a 4 wheeler or traffic.  That will be nice.  

 

Jade, it isn't fair.  I'm just getting to Colorado and you are leaving!  Why are you moving?  I know you do not like it there in the winters.  Is Spirit moving you also?  That's how I ended up in Colorado.  I have learned the hard way that Spirit gets what Spirit wants and it hasn't worked out to well for me over the years to think I have any choice in the matter.  Like you, I am donating a ton of stuff.  That made it so much easier to let go of "things."  When I thought about someone else being grateful for some of the furniture, pots and pans and other stuff I found myself eager to divest myself of it.  It made all the difference.  

 

I am not overjoyed that you are leaving but I am certain that your new life is going to be magnificient. A new, fresh environment for your new self.  Congratulations!  You deserve it. 

Comment by HYPNOJADE on February 1, 2011 at 5:11pm

Dr. Hugh Cole sent me your link. Since I am moving as well, I found myself flooded with memories. Like you said, some good, some not so good, amnd some really disturbing. I immediately recognized that in order to be truly unattached and free of stuff...that I had to do something to reframe that experience into a more positive one without all those memories unrelated to the present to translate into my future.   So, being a hypnotist, and seeking an easier way... I asked my hypnotist friend to hypnotize me so I would not have those attached memories and to be able to prioritize without those attachments. It makes it so much easier. Then I found, since I do not yet know where I will be going, that where I go determines if I keep furnature or not. What to donate, what to sell, and I found myself thinking, I wonder who is starting a business office in town that could use this...so whatever the outcome, it will be radical, transforming and I am ready. I am happy that you and I will be neighbors, at least for a short time. Than I will be off to start my new life, with new beginnings, unemcombered by unneeded stuff and ready to live another life worth living. Even better then before, lol...(hypno language) KISS JADE

 

Comment by Susan French on February 1, 2011 at 8:19am

Hi Melissa,

Did you ever tell us if you are going to continue doing hypnotherapy in Colorado?  I hope so.  Personally, I like to borrow a metaphor from Carole King frequently to put a different spin on past experiences that may not seem to have been so helpful or pleasant.  I tell clients (and myself) that my life is a tapestry of everything I've experienced that has led to who I am today (stronger, more confident, more powerful, wiser, more compassionate, more empathetic, etc).

Every failure or injury to my psyche has contributed to everything I am now.  More so, actually, than my successes, really.  I know there's a quote about that somewhere and I'll try to find it for you. Remembering my successes props me up when I feel discouraged or helps me to move forward when moving forward is hard.  Remembering successes and good experiences is great but I've also heard and agree with the admonition that "pain is the touchstone of spiritual and emotional growth."

 

"Cleaning the closets of your life" works for me because the anytime I actually clean, sort, throw away, reorganize, lighten the load, my way always seems easier.  Everything becomes automatically re-prioritized.  There are fewer irrelevant distractions (like unmatched socks, unwearable clothing, that broken vaccum cleaner that I will never get fixed).

 

I usually find something that I had forgotten about that I love, like a picture one of the kids drew or a book or cd , even a pretty box or vase, which can come back out into a place of more importance, to remind me that there is more value in our "closets" than we often realize.

I don't know about you guys, but I can get so slobby that I can't find anything and I can't walk across my floor without tripping.  That kind of clutter is overwhelming and always in my way.  I find that my life is like that as well. 

I do a reassess every few months on my business plan, what's been  done and what needs to be done next, as well as my personal life.  I keep it on my desktop.  Paring down always helps.  The fewer decisions I have to make in any one period, the easier my life is.

 

One final tip that I learned when I was moving every year or so.  This actually works when you stay in one place as well.  I make a pile of things I'm not sure whether or not I want to throw away.  I put all of those things in one box and date it.  If in a year, I haven't gone in looking for something, I commit to throwing everything in those boxes away.  It's easier if it's already sorted but you have time for packer's remorse.

It is my belief that moving is one of life's most overwhelming tasks, emotionally, logistically, practically, physically.  I try to remember to be as realistic as I can about how long things will take and how much it will cost to do them.  Then I try to leave some "grace" for miscalculation.

 

The other thing I try to do is remember to take breaks often, to eat, to drink water, to meditate, to rest well and allow for downtime. 

 

I wish you well and hope these ideas might be helpful.

 

Susan

http://www.hypno4success.com/blog

 

 

 

 

 

 

Comment by Kelley Woods on January 30, 2011 at 4:05pm

Hi Melissa,

You and I are on the same trip this week!:  http://www.hypnothoughts.com/profiles/blogs/716892:BlogPost:611943

One might consider how their emotional closet gets filled with excess and how wonderful it feels to clear out unwanted and outdated stuff...the emotions, the attachments, the reactions, the self-talk, even the relationships. Once it's clear, it feels so good to restock it with dreams, hopes, affirmations and congratulations.

Just like the congratulations I send to you as you take this marvelous step toward your new life! Bon Voyage!!

Comment by Bill Kennedy on January 30, 2011 at 12:35pm

The treasure trunk tucked up in the attic comes to mind.  It's filled with all kinds of stuff - the clothing you wore to special events, the awards you won, the lessons you learned and the experiences you had.  Sometimes, it's good to remind yourself of where you have been, so that you can revisit where you're going, to take a look at the person you were, so that you can remember the person you will be.