If You Could Share One Tip With Others What Would it be?

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Permalink Reply by Lee Darrow on July 1, 2008 at 8:52pm

Limiting? Maybe. But the belief is based on about forty years of direct experience with physicians, primarily in two of America's largest metropolitan areas - Chicago and Detroit.

Yes, there ARE exceptions - in some cases, whole medical disciplines - gastroenterology, for one, being a very welcoming specialty to me and my work.

But remember, I live in the hometown of the ASCH, who have actively been trying to put us ALL out of business for over forty years... so I am a little closer to the front lines on that issue than some have been, perhaps...

Lee Darrow, C.H.

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Permalink Reply by Richard Rumble on July 2, 2008 at 9:54am

I'm going to agree here with DON.. and say LEE... you are brilliant most of the time... and Don didn't say that if you make a LOT of money you will automatically be respected by ALL professional sectors in life... in ALL THINGS. A Medical Dr. will probably not respect your medical opinion until you are in his eyes his equal. A Dr.

People like David Copperfield... Lance Burton... they get a LOT of respect in not only their field.. but from others as well.... and they make a LOT of money.

Joe the Magician does the same kind of magic... but is living hand to mouth month to month... almost on the brink of being a pauper... he makes no money... and gets no respect.

That $120,000 a year waiter gets PLENTY of respect.. don't you kid yourself. He may not get the respect of his MEDICAL opinions.... but his DR. respects him because he pays his bills on time in full....

In General, you will get MORE respect when you make MORE money.... because we as a society keep score by how much money someone makes and how many toys they have.

Respectfully,

Richard Rumble

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Permalink Reply by Lee Darrow on July 2, 2008 at 1:27pm

Please forgive me when I say this, Richard, but Doctors are probably the rudest customers TO wait staffers that you can get. My wife works IN the hospitality industry at a major convention hotel in Chicago and, uniformly, the medical doctors treat service staff as less than nothing as far as respect goes.

Ask any banquet bartender or waiter in ANY hotel in the USA.

Yes, Lance Burton and David Copperfield get lots of respect, but they get it as entertainers. They do NOT get it for being members of a respected PROFESSION. Magicians, in particular, are viewed as glorified children's entertainers, even in the higher rankings - ask Max Maven, the Amazing Jonathan, and even Chriss Angel as everybody in the industry still gets the occasional call to do a 2 year-old's birthday party every now and then - even Lance gets those calls occasionally. So do my friends Jeff McBride and Franz Harary, Eugene Burger and Harry Anderson.

Money is not everything and having it does not automatically bring respect from those in the Professions.

Ask any banquet bartender or waiter at any 4- or 5-star hotel, anywhere in the USA. When all is said and done, they are still viewed as "just a waiter" or "just a bartender" and NOT a "Member of the Professions."

Yes, it is class-ism. It's not right, it's not politically correct, but it's the way things roll FAR more often than not.

And psychologists and psychiatrists very often view US as interlopers on THEIR turf.

But that's a whole other thread.

But we both agree that it is sure nice to have money and it DOES help - some - with respect to getting respect.

I guess we will have to agree to disagree and move forward. And there's nothing wrong with that, either.

Lee Darrow, C.H.

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Permalink Reply by Susan French on June 30, 2008 at 2:04pm

Listen actively and remain in rapport with your client. If you listen successfully enough, you will lead him to find his own answers within and then you will know how to help him.

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Permalink Reply by Donna Jean Rains on July 1, 2008 at 11:02am

Hello All,

My tip is intuition. My gut rarely lies. If I've centered myself, and am present, I trust what comes to me through my intuition. That leads me as much as my training does. That's my two cents... -Donna Jean Rains, CCHt

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Permalink Reply by Daniel Ingle on July 1, 2008 at 6:43pm

Practice practice practice and never quit let your mind guide you along with the client into trance and then actually see in your mind what you percieve them to see in thiers you can be more discriptive if you do
just my 2 cents worth
Dan

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Permalink Reply by Don Gibbons, Ph.D. on July 2, 2008 at 5:55am

My reply comes in the form of a quotation from Irving Yalom, M.D., who said, "It's the relationship that heals. It's the relationship that heals. It's the relationship that heals. My professional rosary."

All too often, we are inclined to attribute our results to hypnosis itself, rather than to a relationship in which hypnosis is present. In their book entitled, "The Heart of Healing: Relationships in Therapy," Kottler, Sexton, and Whiston unequivocally state, "The assorted theoretical approaches are generally about equal in their success" (p. 100), and devote the rest of the book to a discussion of the clinical and research evidence which shows this to be the case.

It doesn't seem to matter whether we probe for unconscious childhood memories (a la Freud), or identify target behaviors to reinforce (a la Beck and Ellis), or reflect back what a client has said until he or she comes up with the solution to a problem (a la Rogers and Maslow), or hypnotize them (a la us!). If we first meaningfully engage the client in a relationship based on confidence and trust, the results are likely to be mutually satisfying and beneficial.

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Permalink Reply by SUSAN FOX on July 2, 2008 at 10:30am

Instead of selling your products or services, solve a problem for the client. Describe what works for the situation and the clients will come back to you or refer lots of people to you.

Susan Fox

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Permalink Reply by Deborah Yaffee CH CN on July 7, 2008 at 11:41am

Thank you , Bob and Scott, for starting this thread.

My tip is a bit corny but it is actually the one thing that works best for me. It has two parts: when with a client, I practice "being present" and I practice seeing the reality of their actual greatness and health (aka, their true self)....Love is the mirror, the healer, the guide.....

Um, keeping one's active listening skills doesn't hurt either!

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Permalink Reply by Joe Miranda on July 7, 2008 at 9:40pm

The one tip that I have e to give is… never stop doing. Live in the present.

I have found that when I am about to have the greatest breakthrough is when I have the greatest resistance.

When you have the greatest resistance in your goals is when you know that a new door is about to open.

“To get more love you have to give more love.”

Have a wonderful day,

J. Miranda

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Permalink Reply by Leo Gopal - www.LeoGopal.com on July 23, 2008 at 5:29am

I'm a new hypnotist, so this would be for all new hypnotists, and this advice was give to me by John Cerbone and Richard and Paula NonGard which has REALLY helped...

Like NIKE - JUST DO IT!!! Practice Practice Love it and more Practice

So Go get'em Tiger

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Permalink Reply by James Klingensmith on August 30, 2008 at 10:40pm

Rember the Basics of the $ale

K.I.$.$. ( Keep It $hort & $imple)

A.B.C. (Always Be Closing)

First one who speaks after you ask a question is not in charge (this means wait for the Q to be A)

(Who, How, Why, Where, What, When) open the question

Your questions are your guns load the right bullets

You will never get the sale if you don't ask for it

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