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If You Could Share One Tip With Others What Would it be?

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From Bob:
If You Could Share One Tip With Others What Would it be?

Nothing is too smart or too dumb, just share something. The best way for everyone to grow is by sharing and you just don't know who will find your tip valuable.

Here's mine...

Before you do any work with a client take the time to obtain their commitment for success. If they are not committed to what they want and believe this can work for them then I will often suggest someone else or a different approach. You absolutely want the cards stacked in your favour and in the end you want them to walk away and tell 3 others about how well this helped.

My referral business boomed when I committed to helping only those who truly want help.

Now imagine if you provided a tip and all 481 members gave a tip.. We would all be so much smarter.

bob

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Permalink Reply by Joe Miranda on July 7, 2008 at 9:40pm: The one tip that I have e to give is… never stop doing. Live in the present.

I have found that when I am about to have the greatest breakthrough is when I have the greatest resistance.

When you have the greatest resistance in your goals is when you know that a new door is about to open.

“To get more love you have to give more love.”

Have a wonderful day,

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Permalink Reply by Leo Gopal - www.LeoGopal.com on July 23, 2008 at 5:29am: I'm a new hypnotist, so this would be for all new hypnotists, and this advice was give to me by John Cerbone and Richard and Paula NonGard which has REALLY helped...

Like NIKE - JUST DO IT!!! Practice Practice Love it and more Practice

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Permalink Reply by James Klingensmith on August 30, 2008 at 10:40pm: Rember the Basics of the $ale

K.I.$.$. ( Keep It $hort & $imple)

A.B.C. (Always Be Closing)

First one who speaks after you ask a question is not in charge (this means wait for the Q to be A)

(Who, How, Why, Where, What, When) open the question

Your questions are your guns load the right bullets

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Permalink Reply by trish Heenan on August 31, 2008 at 12:58am: Mine would be 'don't isolate yourself'. There's a wealth of information, mentoring & insights out there that can only strengthen our profession. Feathers might get ruffled from time to time:) but the potential for learning from each other is phenomenal. There'll always be more than enough clients to go around but just think how many insights came from this one post alone..; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Linda Warsh on August 31, 2008 at 9:58am: A hearty heartfelt hello to everyone! My tip would be to bring some LOVE into the room. In other words, get the EGO out of what you are doing, set your intention for healing and goodness and joy and whatever else is needed. Use blessings often. Your client does not have to be aware of your invocations to whatever it is you believe to be greater than yourself. When I am ultra-aware that it is not ME doing the work, and I am grateful for the opportunity to facilitate change and ever so appreciative for the human intimacy and honesty, then magic happens. When I ask myself, "who am I to give this person direction?" and step down from being, "the know it all" then I really do appear to know it all because I get answers from outside of myself.

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Permalink Reply by Ingrid Clark, C.Ht. on September 1, 2008 at 12:00pm: First and foremost, I always explain to my client and/or seminar attendees that they are already successful! They're successful in achieving and in failing according to their 'life script' which resides in their subconscious. Once the subject realizes that, s(h)e understands that by reprogramming ones subconscious via hypnosis it is guaranteed that the new 'script' will also manifest in his/her life.

Can you think of a better way to immediately empower your client?

Then I suggest that they do their homework by utilizing 'The Mental Bank Concept' to speed up their hypno therapy sessions with me.

FYI - I'm holding "Mental Bank Concept/Success is Not an Accident" webinars.

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Permalink Reply by Bruce Taylor - Just Another Hypnotist on December 13, 2008 at 10:13am: I like Lee's response in knowing the rules. That covers a large area. Always continue to learn whether that is reading and posting on this and other sites, working with others in the industry that have been there and done that and also along with learning contue to DO. What I mean by Do is work on doing or practicing each and every day.

Side Note, I knew I liked Lee, He is from Chicago. Lived there my first 21 years.

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Permalink Reply by Lee Darrow on December 14, 2008 at 9:36am: Never trust that the initial presenting issue is the real issue. It almost never is. Sometimes the presenting issue that brings a client in the door is an excuse for them to finally make an assault on something that they are too embarrassed about or possibly even unaware of when they first show up.

Another tip - never assume that a client will buy into anything that they do not initially expect, at least not without a lot of explanation and education from you. This applies especially to those therapists who approach issues from a metaphysical angle, but also applies, I've learned from experience, to those of us who use indirect methods and Ericksonian approaches. Not everybody is in synch with that kind of approach to life, the universe and everything.

Lastly - KEEP YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR ABOUT YOU!! Sometimes, being able to laugh at yourself, at the absurdity of a situation or to tell a joke to break the tension can be a key part of any client/consultant interaction!

Swami Beyondananda, the Yogi From Muskogee, calls this "Absurdiveness Training." He also feels that everyone should take a laughcitive, daily, to promote regular hilarity and to help prevent humorrhoids.

I wholeheartedly concur.

Happy Holidaze!

Lee Darrow, C.H.
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Permalink Reply by John Cerbone - The Trance-Master on December 14, 2008 at 9:49am: Great an insightful post Lee!
An idea I have plugged into a lot of my work recently, is to release, forgive, heal, improve upon, foundationally reset, recalibrate, move beyond, flow over, move into a new day and night -- while letting go of anything and everything that ever caused the issue to exist in the first place, from places both known and unknown to them, while they are now UNSTOPPABLY into a brand new chapter of their life, freed forever from the past, while deeply knowing this to be true. I also get them to nod their head yes while they're still in trance, so the subconscious mind knows this and agrees to it.
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Permalink Reply by Alexander Duvall - HypnotizedTV.com on December 15, 2008 at 9:55am: "Remember you are only as good as your last show and you are only as good as the people who sit infront of you"; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Lee Darrow on December 15, 2008 at 5:43pm: But also remember this: "Everybody flops once in a while. Any performer who says that they have never flopped is either not performing much and is only performing for friends and family or they are a (expletive deleted) liar." - Jay Marshall, the late Dean of the Society of American Magicians, echoed by Penn & Teller, David Letterman and Harry Anderson, among others (Jay appeared over 15 times on the Ed Sullivan Show and was the MC for the touring road show that Sullivan also had, worked Broadway, movies, TV and even did a music video with Twisted Sister, so he knew what he was talking about).

One flop does not a failure make and even big names flop now and then, even after they have "made it big."

Ask Jim Carrey, Nicholas Cage, Madonna and even Oprah (who has had several of her charitable programs "underperform," which is PC language for flopping - I know that for a fact because I performed at one of them) and even several of the performing pros in this forum. Everybody flops, once in a while.

That's showbiz!

So, if you flop, it may not be you. But it may be. The real pros learn and grow from them when they happen.

Not a contradiction, Alexander, but a coda to your statement.

Happy Holidays!

Lee Darrow, C.H.
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