No Matter How Hard We Try, There Are and There Remain, Some Clients Who Are Determined to Shoot Themselves in the Foot
In response to an Email question asked by a colleague regarding a client who is not doing her session reinforcement for smoking cessation and remains still smoking, even though she says she wants to quit.
If your client is not doing her reinforcement work, then she's violated your contract with her, even if your contract was only a verbal one. And yes, most likely, she's not ready to quit, even though she might say she is. In this particular situation, in a next session, I would ask her subconscious mind to work toward success, in ways both known as well as unknown to her.
I had one a few years or so ago, a fellow who came in and for a smoking cessation session. I still use audio tapes as reinforcement recordings which I record live in the session, as they are easier to deal with, what you record is what you get, no wave file corruptions, as I had explained this to him in advance, he knew this going in.
I got a call on voicemail some 4 months later!!! He tells me he went to Best Buy and supposedly the teenager working there told him audio tapes where obsolete. Then he also says and thereby expects me to believe, he cannot buy a cassette player anywhere. All this on my voicemail, and even though I had left numerous messages, he wouldn’t return my calls, while he's demanding his session fee back.
Every boom box pretty much has a cassette player, most of us have one in house, I in fact, buy my recordable machines there. So on his message, he is evidently lying, he's screaming, seemingly having a tantrum, etc. - & some 4 months later!!!! I know my work. I have personally helped 1000's quit smoking, and I also know it's the ones we can't save that hurt us, the ones whom don't really want it, that upset us.
I once had a friend years back, a female psychic I met on a radio show I used to appear on. One early afternoon, she called me quite upset. The previous evening, she had talked a self-awareness class in some night-time High School Continuing Ed program, and had about 50 people there, 49 loved her, one went nuts, claiming her work to be fraudulent, stormed out demanding back her money. In an effort to come are self down, she asked my point of view. I told her to concentrate on the 49 who got it and loved it, and were her defending her post class, soothing her, not the one who stormed out.
So my advice to a new hypnotist encountering such a situation, would be to ask their client to get real and work for results, and stop procrastinating, as the best of any of us can do is to provide the tools necessary to achieve the success desired. As a hypnotist, you are not there to drop bombs nor fix her life. No magic wands! She needs to want her own success and whatever that might take.