The proper use of words

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Permalink Reply by Robert Burns on September 21, 2008 at 12:06pm

I agree with what you say about how we make our clients feel however, words do cause feelings as they are triggers and when used properly do bring about miracles. This is evident when working with allergies and phobias utilizing NLP techniques.

Respectfully yours,

Bob

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Permalink Reply by Michael Ellner on September 21, 2008 at 12:25pm

I think we all agree that words can be negatively or positively charged!

My point is that what determines the "charge" is the meaning the words have to our clients, not to be confused with our perceptions about what words mean..

Check out the power point in my Alternative HIV/AIDS for an example how the word POSTIVE can become highly negatively charged in medical settings...

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Permalink Reply by Wizardoftrance on November 16, 2008 at 10:31pm

While we all have learned or developed different models of the mind, and with no intention of creating a debate about it on this thread, I do use a different model of the mind Matthew. My model says that the subconscious (which I guess you call unconscious) is purely reactive in nature and reacts to the needs identified by the conscious mind. I believe that is the only form of communication that is shared. The exception is the learning capability the subconscious has when it learns how to react, but that does not involve the conscious mind either.

I offer as proof of this, irrational fears. The conscious mind can tell the subconscious all day long that there is no reason to fear that bug, or that there is no way you will fall out of the car on that overpass, that there is no need to feel that gripping fear because no threat exists, yet this communication from the conscious mind has no effect at all.

The subconscious responds to outside input when the watchdog (superconscious) allows it. It will respond as long as it understands the suggestion and has learned how to react.

I do agree with you however, about the non-issue of using the term weight loss. I have not found any issue what-so-ever using the term weight loss with my clients. They understand what it means and they are very familiar with the usage. My weight loss session does not direct the body to "lose weight". It directs the body to find internal balance and from it, return to a normal, healthy weight. The client must also participate by increasing their activity level. Top that off by incorporating the "push the plate away, I'm done" feeling when the body knows it has had enough, and you have a very successful weight loss system.

This of course is after you make sure that the superconscious itself is not preventing the desired weightloss via protection or punishment.

Cheers
John

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Permalink Reply by Stephen Gruber - www. ask-the-hypnotist.com on September 12, 2008 at 1:23am

Robert
I agree that for marketing purpose it's best to go with the words that meet people's expectations, i.e. weight loss etc. However, once in the office or on CD I talk about "letting go of unwanted, unneeded or unnecessary fat which not only deals with the issue of them not having to "find" any weight they will "lose" but I find generally meets with a very enthusiastic response from the client when they first hear it.
Hope this helps,
Stephen
ask-the-hypnotist.com

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Permalink Reply by Victoria Sieger on September 16, 2008 at 9:31am

I agree with everyone that there is a difference in Advertising language versus Hypnotic language used in suggestions. Weight is often a buffer or a cover for something deeper so there is a reason the person is hanging on to the extra pounds. Stephen's method of using the term "letting go" would certainly avoid resistance and allow you to get to that core issue. Thank you, Stephen.

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Permalink Reply by Robert Burns on September 16, 2008 at 9:46am

Hi there Victoria, I'm in agreement with everyone and we're all correct in what were saying. The emphasis on certain words and the effectiveness varies per client. Once in rapport and aligning breathing, etc words take on a softer and deeper meaning and the most effective way of having a successful session is aligning the consious as well as the subconsious mind through both wording and physiology (rapport). I emphasize the power of rapport to my students during my teachings.

Respectfully yours,

Bob

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Permalink Reply by Don Rice on September 14, 2008 at 5:33pm

Congrats on your success.

Research has shown that in advertizing "Weight Lose" will draw the attention of more people than "Weight Management.

The old sub will accept lose if you give it a replacement.

In inductions I constantly say sleep when actually it is hypnosis.

We can play with words forever, but it's only the results that count. People don't come to you and me for hypnosis. THEY COME TO US TO LOSE WEIGHT.

Do Good & Make Money

Don

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Permalink Reply by Beryl Comar on September 15, 2008 at 2:02am

My weight CDs are "Getting Slim, Slender and Sexy with Hypnosis" beats the idea of weight loss .... eyes light up when they say the 3sss

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Permalink Reply by Robert Burns on September 15, 2008 at 2:11am

Good morning Beryl, It seems we're in agreement with words. I use the term weight loss when doing advertising as that is the concious mind here and understands yet once on the phone, on my CDs(which are titled Weight Management), and in my office, I educate my clients concerning word usage. Thank you for your note.

Robert Burns

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Permalink Reply by Victoria Sieger on September 15, 2008 at 9:23am

Hi Robert...I agree with you. The term "lose" should be lost! How can we help people to change their belief patterns and mind set if we can't even use empowering language ourselves?
Reminds me of an Oprah show I saw where she had on 6 successful black people and discussed using the word "Nigger." The elders who had been through the 60's opposed using the word and a few younger Rappers tried to defend it. In the end her point got across: you can't raise the consciousness of your own people as well as others if you continue to use words that are disempowering. She encouraged everyone to watch their language and to pay attention to what their words were saying not only to the world but to their own subconsious minds. Of course "nigger" is certainly more obvious than the word "lose" but it is the same principle. Yes?

Another perspective comes from Abraham.....Have you read "The Astonishing Power of Emotions" by Esther and Jerry Hicks? I just read the chapter on weight. Abraham's point is that you can't alter your weight unless you become aligned with the vibration of the emotion you are trying to get to by being slim. Focus on the vibration, not the action. They advise us look for improvement in mood, attitude and emotion. That's what we are trained to do as hypnotists, right? Give our clients relief. And bit by bit the more relief they feel the more in alignment they become and healing takes place. We just have to be very careful with the words we use.
Thanks for your posting. Ooops! I went off on a tangent! This language thing gets me going!
Victoria

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Permalink Reply by Robert Burns on September 15, 2008 at 4:27pm

Hello Victoria, I guess the NLP or language thing got me going on that particular subject as I always say "are you a loser"? and when my clients say no, I follow up with "you can't lose weight but you can become thinner. They love it. The same thing with smokers i e "are you a quitter"? become a non smoker. Thank you for your support as language is so important.

Bob

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Permalink Reply by Victoria Sieger on September 16, 2008 at 8:49am

LOL. Good idea! No one wants to be a loser or a quitter! :) In that context it certainly works. Different than including it in a suggestion under hypnosis. I am still learning about using the proper language. For example, when I first started I used affirmations that started with "I WANT"...had read that in a book somewhere. It just didn't work for my clients. Then I took out the "want", realizing that it implied a lack of something, and replaced it with "I AM" act-as-if statements and the same affirmation worked great. So it really is true that the subconsious does what it is instructed to do and you better know what your words mean. This will no doubt be a lifelong reprogramming exercise for me! Take care...Victoria

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