Elaina McMillan's Page

No, I'm not talking about that! Although, that can be powerful too. I'm talking about loving the essence of who you are. You at your best...or not. Loving the whole package. It's not about loving the good and ignoring the rest, but rather loving all the parts that make up who you are. If we are all here to learn anyway, maybe it's okay that we don't always have all the answers. Maybe fumbling through is part of the adventure. Why are we so quick to hide our flaws and cover up our issues. It's no… Continue

While recently engaging in a little self-exploration, I revisited the topic of Sexual Confidence. I knew that sexual confidence was not exclusively reserved for the super beautiful or for the ultra skilled. I also knew that beauty and skill did not guarantee sexual confidence. So where does this elusive power live, and how do we get our hands on it? What is sexual confidence and how does it differ from confidence in general? Can we be confident in life and not in the bedroom? These are the que… Continue

If the only thing constant is change, then it makes sense that the same might be true in relationships. Particularly long term relationships. I for one, married very young and can say with certainty that who I was at 22 and who I am at 37 has changed in many ways and on many levels. The relationship I designed 15 years ago was relevant to my wants and needs then. What about now? Somtimes the rules change, and that's okay. I know, I know, some of us are creatures of habit and tend to resist chang… Continue

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Here's a question...Do we confuse monogamy with monotony? I believe we do. I believe that even those of us who have the "tools" and "wisdom" to know better still do it, so surely the rest of the world is susceptible to this false belief. I think consciously we know better, and yet sometimes when it comes to our own relationships we fall into the routine we've accidentally created for ourselves. Why is Valentines Day one time per year? Why not everyday, or once a week? Why not put as much effort… Continue